Might lose my job soon

Jan 31, 2015, 12:03 AM

I found out 2 days ago that 10% of my company will be jobless this coming week. I will find out on Wed Feb 4.

After so many hardships in my life, and so much hard work to get stronger and more resilient, I can say with confidence that I'm handling this much better than I would have otherwise.

In the past, I might have stocked up on red wine and sharpened my knife, but this time around, I'm just lifting heavier weights

One of my foremost principles is "Do not lose your calm over something you cannot control.". I'm standing by it.

Wish me luck. In all honesty, my entire life depends on my job, not emotionally, but practically. If I lose my job, you might never hear from me again ... this is not to solicit pity from you (I have plenty of pity for myself), but it's a very practical decision I made many years ago, for reasons that haven't changed.

Thanks for reading

Space Wizard · Jan 31, 2015, 12:18 AM

You got this.

shezbut · Jan 31, 2015, 03:17 AM

It is hard when companies have cutbacks...scary.

Keep working out, to stay healthy and keep your mind off the "what if's". Of course, there are a whole lot of healthy distraction activities to use. No point in going in too deeply with any one activity, right? Go for a healthy walk. Ride a bicycle. Create something artistic (taking photos, coloring, painting, drawing, zen, etc.). There are lots and lots of possibilities!

Gentle hugs and very best wishes to you.

Jan 31, 2015, 03:28 AM

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Originally Posted by shezbut

It is hard when companies have cutbacks...scary.

Keep working out, to stay healthy and keep your mind off the "what if's". Of course, there are a whole lot of healthy distraction activities to use. No point in going in too deeply with any one activity, right? Go for a healthy walk. Ride a bicycle. Create something artistic (taking photos, coloring, painting, drawing, zen, etc.). There are lots and lots of possibilities!

Gentle hugs and very best wishes to you.

That is actually a great suggestion ! Haven't done something artistic in a while now. Maybe I'll watch a sunset on the beach or something.

Thanks

ManOfConstantSorrow · Jan 31, 2015, 04:52 AM

Nowadays we are potentially all a few weeks away from redundancy. It is the new normal, and we have to prepare as best we can emotionally and financially.

Good luck.

Frankbtl · Jan 31, 2015, 05:11 AM

Hi lilodian, wishing you lots of luck

But just remember there's a whole lot more to you/out there than a/any particular job if........OK??

You have been through and come through so much stuff, and it's not your job that's got you through that, it's YOU who's got you through that!!
And practical decisions years ago.........well however it may feel if it comes to it, you/your life/who you are deep down are very, very different from then........and you have us now

So lots of different practical decisions you can make with some support!!

And for right now..........really well done on taking this so well, and great principle there.......you keep standing by it

And keep rolling with those distractions, plenty of more positive stuff to think about and to do, right??

Alison

Mindful55 · Jan 31, 2015, 02:17 PM

Hi lilodian..unfortunately it is getting more common as ManOfConstant Sorrow pointed out..it happened to me as well..
Best of luck on the 4th. It is what it is..yeah it sucks!!

Crazy Hitch · Jan 31, 2015, 04:19 PM

Hi liliodian

Holding you up in thought during this time whilst you wait.

Let us know how you go.

Peace to you.

Feb 01, 2015, 12:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Hooligan

Hi liliodian

Holding you up in thought during this time whilst you wait.

Let us know how you go.

Peace to you.

Thanks, Hooligan !

Love your new signature

HD7970GHZ · Feb 01, 2015, 03:10 PM

Hey Lilodian,

I am concerned for you. You have helped me so much through my darkness and I wish to help you is some way. I empathize greatly for your current circumstances. Job loss is often considered one of the main stressors for suicide and suicidal ideation. You are very aware of this being one of your major stressors - and I have no doubt in my mind that you can remain mindful of this and, "prepare," for the storm if it happens to come. The only thing you can do is your very best - and it sounds like you are remaining proactive and motivated despite any such, "what if," that may come to pass.

Just know that you are not alone. There are many unemployed people in the world. Up in Canada there has recently been major layoffs in the oil and gas industry. It's going to be an interesting year.

Please keep us updated!

Thanks,
HD

Feb 01, 2015, 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by HD7970GHZ

Hey Lilodian,

I am concerned for you. You have helped me so much through my darkness and I wish to help you is some way. I empathize greatly for your current circumstances. Job loss is often considered one of the main stressors for suicide and suicidal ideation. You are very aware of this being one of your major stressors - and I have no doubt in my mind that you can remain mindful of this and, "prepare," for the storm if it happens to come. The only thing you can do is your very best - and it sounds like you are remaining proactive and motivated despite any such, "what if," that may come to pass.

Just know that you are not alone. There are many unemployed people in the world. Up in Canada there has recently been major layoffs in the oil and gas industry. It's going to be an interesting year.

Please keep us updated!

Thanks,
HD

Hey HD ! So nice to hear from you

Welcome back !

It feels so nice to be appreciated ... you are very welcome ! And I'm honored to have had the opportunity to help you in some small way.

Thanks for your support. I will keep y'all posted !

hannabee · Feb 01, 2015, 04:18 PM

So sorry you have to go through this, but unfortunately a sign the of times. Certainly not your fault. Sending good thoughts and prayers your way. Let us know what happens, please. Big hug!

shezbut · Feb 03, 2015, 02:13 AM

Just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you. Very best wishes sent your way!

Feb 03, 2015, 12:30 PM

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Originally Posted by shezbut

Just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you. Very best wishes sent your way!

That is so sweet of you, shezbut

You've made my day !!!

I'll find out about my job tomorrow. I think, subconsciously, I'm hoping to lose my job ... that'll bring about a certain end to all the misery.

Frankbtl · Feb 03, 2015, 12:58 PM

Hi lilodian, dropped back by to wish you luck (lots of luck!!) again for tomorrow

But either way..........the misery...........we can work on that, alright??!!

There can be a lot more in life, and already been seeing a few cracks in that misery

You've really have come so far, whether it feels like it at times or not!! And of course you deserve that "lot more in life"!!!

So don't forget, we care, and we're here for you.........and let's work on the misery together.

Alison

Feb 03, 2015, 01:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Frankbtl

Hi lilodian, dropped back by to wish you luck (lots of luck!!) again for tomorrow

But either way..........the misery...........we can work on that, alright??!!

There can be a lot more in life, and already been seeing a few cracks in that misery

You've really have come so far, whether it feels like it at times or not!! And of course you deserve that "lot more in life"!!!

So don't forget, we care, and we're here for you.........and let's work on the misery together.

Alison

Thanks, Alison

You are reassuring as ever

Mindful55 · Feb 03, 2015, 07:02 PM

Lilodian4ever

Take care tomorrow

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Feb 04, 2015, 01:03 AM

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Lilodian4ever

Take care tomorrow

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Thanks so much, Mindful55 ! I'm actually very calm at the moment.

Mindful55 · Feb 04, 2015, 06:47 PM

Just checking in..

How did your day go?

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Frankbtl · Feb 04, 2015, 06:58 PM

Hi lilodian,
And an up-date.........?????
Got to log off now, but back tomorrow.
Thoughts are with you.
And don't go forgetting we're here for you if you need some support, OK???

Alison