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#1
Apr 12, 2015, 03:15 PM
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I am not handling this big life change of moving from NH to Virginia. I can't deal with change it sends me off the deep end.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
 Anonymous100335, dancinglady, JadeAmethyst, kaliope, Starling.
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#2
Apr 12, 2015, 04:31 PM
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change is difficult to handle. i dont blame you. it is like starting all over again. but the best thing about that is you can pick the best things about life to focus on and leave the rest behind. and virginia is beautiful as well. i hope that you adjust quickly.
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Apr 12, 2015, 06:04 PM
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I rarely have energy at 31 years old for any change at all because My life has changed so much over the course of my life and been so unstable- i am to thhe point of whenever I have to take responsibility and make plans with a certain budget, I procastinate and dread doing anything about everything on mostly a daily basis. I get easily discouraged and have nothing to lean on...i started giving up 5 years ago because I could mot handle w uhh at p
Most people live to do everyday and by that, im refering to striving to be a functional part of our society everyday in a healty mannet. |
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Apr 12, 2015, 06:24 PM
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Welcome to Va. I hope you find happiness here. It has been a total nightmare for me here. The people are rude, stigma for people with mental illness is off the chart. People here do not treat transplants (their name for outsiders) well at all. As far as mental health services we are about 100 years behind other states. Be ready for "them wanting to warehouse you". Mentally ill people are told to stay away from normal society. Any chance they get they put us away for a long time. There is no such thing as integrating into this society if you have a mental illness. NAMI is completely run by the professionals. If you like to be told how what when and where to do things by your mental health clinician you will fit right in with NAMI. If not they will ban you from going to meetings. Thought u might want to be warned. If you have not moved my advice is stay where you are.
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Apr 13, 2015, 03:12 PM
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It is 4:10pm and I am sitting on the living room floor totally drained. The movers are still here since 9:30 and are not finished. All they had to do was pack up the large furniture. I did everything else.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
| unaluna
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Apr 13, 2015, 04:40 PM
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Moving is incredibly stressful. I hope everything goes as well as possible and you're able to look after yourself just now.
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Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising up every time we fall.
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Apr 13, 2015, 04:46 PM
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I am running away from home at the crack ***** motel to live in the woods across the street.
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| MoxieDoxie
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Apr 13, 2015, 04:46 PM
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Next week that is.
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#9
Apr 13, 2015, 05:27 PM
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 after these past coupla winters?? I am looking forward to hearing about your adventures in your new town. I am excited and envious! 
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May 04, 2015, 10:22 PM
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Did you make it to VA? How is it so far? It is HOT where I live.
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May 05, 2015, 12:23 AM
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Yes I am here in Virginia. I have been doing the best I can to unpack, learn where all the shopping centers are, change my license. I sent out a few resumes to find a personal trainer position. I did two interviews. Those with anxiety need no explantation on what I am going through in that department.
The weather turned warm here and we learned that the central air conditioner does not make it to the 3rd floor of the townhouse that has the bedrooms. We told the landord but it is only one zone. We closed all the vents in the basement and the main floor but it does not help so the basement pretty much gets all the air conditioning and is freezing cold and our bedroom, guest room and office gets none. It renders that floor useless. I am very upset over this. This place is not cheap to rent. Right now I am trying to sleep on the couch. We are going to have to move again when the lease is up because I refuse to pay this kind of rent when one part of the living space is useless for part of the years. This is not helping my mental health. I found a psychologist down here but so far he is not helping much. I only saw him 3 times. I guess I need to give him a chance. My husband started his new job today so anxiety level around here is high and will remain so for a while.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
| Anonymous100335, unaluna
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#12
May 07, 2015, 04:01 PM
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 I'm sorry that you've already come across problems. I can imagine the amount of stress around you and your husband right now.. my heart goes out to you and you can pm me if you ever need to talk! |
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#13
May 07, 2015, 05:11 PM
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All I can say your experience is not unusual here. I think that I warned you. Good luck.
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