[Bzmn8tv]

I am curious how many are married with a bpd diagnoses. In 2010 our marriage had an explosion. I've not been ok since. My husband has had severe trauma as a child also and is diagnosed with depression anxiety and OCD. I'm wondering if we can ever be a loving couple again. With me getting this diagnoses. I'm concerned. He doesn't apologize much. I do to much. I own the diagnoses. Doesn't make it easier. Not at all.

[Crypts_Of_The_Mind]

Originally Posted by Bzmn8tv

I am curious how many are married with a bpd diagnoses. In 2010 our marriage had an explosion. I've not been ok since. My husband has had severe trauma as a child also and is diagnosed with depression anxiety and OCD. I'm wondering if we can ever be a loving couple again. With me getting this diagnoses. I'm concerned. He doesn't apologize much. I do to much. I own the diagnoses. Doesn't make it easier. Not at all.

First, welcome to PsychCentral.

Next, yes it is possible to have a successful marriage with this diagnosis. It is even possible to do so with both partners having mental health issues. Each partner, however, must be dedicated to working on their own issues both for themselves and for the myriad of ways those issues affect the relationship. You cannot have one partner say "if you go to counseling and work on your issues we will be fine" and the other one not nor can you "take turns" (ie one partner get counssling first and then the other). Marriage is a partnership relationship and if both of you do not feel or relate to each other on an equal level (especially when mental illness becomes a factor) you cannot keep the marriage healthy.

[TishaBuv]

Hello and welcome to PC!

I've been married for nearly 25 years.

If you would like to read some of my posts you'll get some insight.

I was recently diagnosed with Borderline traits---but---I'm not convinced of anything yet.

I'm sure there's some underlying biological/emotional issue, but it's mostly relationship problems.

I hope you find info and support here. Feel free to open up.

[bluestar1]

Originally Posted by Bzmn8tv

I am curious how many are married with a bpd diagnoses. In 2010 our marriage had an explosion. I've not been ok since. My husband has had severe trauma as a child also and is diagnosed with depression anxiety and OCD. I'm wondering if we can ever be a loving couple again. With me getting this diagnoses. I'm concerned. He doesn't apologize much. I do to much. I own the diagnoses. Doesn't make it easier. Not at all.

You're both traumatized from childhood. Only difference is you were told and he wasn't. That's it. The reality is you're in the same boat.

There are bandaids and soothing modalities and ways to acknowledge and respect and honor and put to rest and let things go and use wise mind and utilize your inner guide and over soul and inner child.

When it all boils down - you have to feel to heal and embody to become real.

Start here and if you're not up to it - well there's always the circle game - going round and round.

https://bpdtransformation.wordpress.com/

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I have BPD (amongst other things) and I'm married. My husband has depression as part of his MS.

We have a good marriage. We both support each other through our various illnesses and such. We both have childhood trauma; we've talked about it with my T and it has helped.

I have BPD and have been married 25 years. My husband doesn't have any MI issues but he is so supportive. I would be lost without him.