[LittleButterflyx]

I just am done of being judged because I have BPD.

I have gotten WAY better than I used to be. I am fully aware. I am good at bouncing back and apologizing etc. But, people want to act like it defines everything about me. I have more problems then just that and it just bothers me and upsets me. I want to be seen as the person I am, not what my disorder makes me to be.

I used to do things when I was worse and people wont let them go and I get it and understand, but its just frustrating when I am getting better and most everyone wants to keep me five hundred steps back when they claim they are tired of helping me.

[Crypts_Of_The_Mind]

I understand this. I felt this same frustration for a long time - before I finally "gave up the ghost". There is always going to be someone waiting around the next corner or on the other side of the door to tear you down.

The question is: Will you let them?

They can say whatever they want to, do whatever they want to ...nothing you can do about it. BUT...what do any of the things they say or do matter if you refuse to react to them - or at least in the negative way they expect.

Simply start living positive. Understand you control yourself, not others - but neither do they control you. Do that which makes you happy and allows you to feel good about yourself.

❤

[Carmina]

I've long had concerns about the BPD label and particularly the amount of judgemental and often sexist baggage that seems to come with it. Good article here:

https://www.talkspace.com/blog/2017/...ism-diagnosis/

[CrayCentral]

Plenty of good advice already - so I might just add that whenever I feel I’ve done what I can, but am still judged or misunderstood as just somebody labelled with BPD I try to mindfully look beyond those opinions that don’t matter and focus on the many positive character traits we forget we still identify with.
Just remember that to understand life on a the deepest intuitive level one first has to experience pain & suffering with the scars only to show those with an open mind your resilience, potential to greatly empathise, a natural gift within creativity and the strength to use it all towards better days

[All Is Revealed]

I completely understand how you feel. When I meet someone, I tell them I am psychotic and I have OCD. That way, there is no shock when they realize who I truly am. They know that they are in the presence of someone who doesn't sugarcoat things or is two-faced.

Of course, you want to be seen for you, and not for having BPD. This takes time and patience. You want to surround yourself with people who love you and accept you for who you are as a person. Finding the right set of supportive friends and family requires "weeding out" those who pretend they care about you. If someone judges you or makes you feel worse, this is an indicator that they must exit your life.