[BlueJeans00]

Apparently I was told by my therapist that if a parent says to a child and I assume more than once "You shouldn't feel that way" can developed BPD.

Which is what I experience and still do from my own mother unfortunately.
Recently she told me I make her feel uncomfortable and anxious and I feel really bad as if I'm a bad person or bad seed and I shouldnt live. Then maybe my mum feel happier.

Anyway my question is if the child develops BPD by the treatment of the parent what does the parent suffer from?

[TishaBuv]

My mother did tell me I shouldn’t feel that way. I also meet all the hallmarks of other criteria for it.

I’m sure my mother has NPD and HPD. She’s never been to a psych and never would hear of going. Now that she’s elderly, she’s over the top wacko with this.

*worse than “shouldn’t” actually...she’d tell me I don’t feel the way I felt. Totally invalidated my feelings. I was not allowed to feel what I felt.

[BlueJeans00]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

My mother did tell me I shouldn’t feel that way. I also meet all the hallmarks of other criteria for it.

I’m sure my mother has NPD and HPD. She’s never been to a psych and never would hear of going. Now that she’s elderly, she’s over the top wacko with this.

*worse than “shouldn’t” actually...she’d tell me I don’t feel the way I felt. Totally invalidated my feelings. I was not allowed to feel what I felt.

Wow I'm really sorry to hear what you went through.
Yeah my mum called me names like ******, selfish, pig ,
You put salt in the wound.

Can I ask what is NPD and HPD.

Wow! My mum like that too refuse to help.

[Travelinglady]

Mine was diagnosed by a therapist as having narcissistic personality disorder with borderline characteristics.

[andtheair]

I am convinced my Mother has NPD too although she never told me I shouldn't feel ways, she was too busy talking about she felt. I'd inconvenienced her enough being born, let alone hearing my feelings!

On the flip side though, my daughter has been diagnosed with anxiety disorder and I am certain she has so many BPD traits already. It's like looking and hearing me sometimes, the way she thinks things through. And I've been very conscious to never speak as you've mentioned around her.

[Skeezyks]

I was never diagnosed as having BPD. I once read the book: Lost in the Mirror. And, based on that, I thought there was a time I could perhaps have been diagnosed with it... not anymore. But I've been told BPD tends to burn itself out as a person ages. I can still hear my father saying: "Jesus, what the hell's the matter with you, Bud?"

[TishaBuv]

Originally Posted by BlueJeans00

Wow I'm really sorry to hear what you went through.
Yeah my mum called me names like ******, selfish, pig ,
You put salt in the wound.

Can I ask what is NPD and HPD.

Wow! My mum like that too refuse to help.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Histrionic Personality Disorder.

My mom has gotten worse with age.

I was diagnosed with Borderline traits, but I’m not so sure about what’s really going on with me. I did not have a “Borderline” youth...or did I? The jury’s still out with me.