[Lostdeepinspace]

THIS IS A RANT! I have been on this forum for a few weeks now... and have found comfort trying to give the best advice I can to those whom need a shoulder to cry on. I am (WAS) in the middle of a manic episode of my cyclothymia.... and went to chat for comfort and closure. I made a poor choice and just wanted advice on the situation. I am not an alcoholic, but bought a case of wine... wondering why I did that. Im never gonna drink it all. I had good advice saying that Wine makes a great gift for christmas. Thank you to those who helped... but NO THANKS to those who made me feel worse then when i arrived. To those who criticized me, thanks for confirming my self consciousness and why i never shared my issues with people. Always someone there to make you feel worse.. thought this place was for support.

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Have you tried reporting the users?

[Lostdeepinspace]

I did not. I tend to find myself over emotional.. and thought maybe it was just me. I had several messages from people saying they were sorry for what had just happened and told me to look at it as the people who were putting me down, had no idea of my situation and did not understand my condition. I took it that way and hope that anyone deciding to give negative advice consider that maybe they have no idea what the other person is experiencing. I have calmed down since then... but really do not wish that for anyone using this forum. This should be a place for support and help.

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by wantwhaticanthave

I did not. I tend to find myself over emotional.. and thought maybe it was just me. I had several messages from people saying they were sorry for what had just happened and told me to look at it as the people who were putting me down, had no idea of my situation and did not understand my condition. I took it that way and hope that anyone deciding to give negative advice consider that maybe they have no idea what the other person is experiencing. I have calmed down since then... but really do not wish that for anyone using this forum. This should be a place for support and help.

Yes, it should be a place for support and help. It might be helpful if you can keep in mind that some of the people who come here have a problem with desiring to harm others (whether they admit that to themselves or not). Just because that is part of their illness, you don't have to internalize it. By the way, wine does make a nice gift for people who can imbibe.

[Can't Stop Crying]

i am so sorry that happened...this site can provide excellent support...please try to hang in there...i hope you can find the caring, compassionate parts of our community!

[avlady]

i am so sorry you had a bad experience here!!!I always found it helpful, some people may think it sounds too much like themselves and are afraid to confront their own issue, at least that is all i can think of about someone harrassing someone else. I hope you keep coming here i do enjoy it myself and hope i never give anyone bad impression as sometimes people do without even knowing it. Good luck and i pray for your situation.

I'm truly sorry that you had a negative experience. I always read the entire post, and then I try my best to put myself in that person's shoes. I treat a person the way I would want that person to treat me. I have visited several websites that focus on mental illness, and I found that PsychCentral has the most caring, compassionate, kind, and informed participants. Are there participants who reply to posts with a seemingly uncaring and hurtful choice of words? Of course. But I submit that they are a very small minority of the total participants. And you have to keep in mind that some participants may be experiencing a difficult situation when they post or reply to posts. I'm not trying to excuse their hurtful replies to your post; I'm simply trying to offer a possible explanation.

Again, I am truly sorry you had a negative experience.

[ifst5]

I get where you're coming from - chat has changed rather a bit in recent months. Luckily as im in a different time zone i miss a lot of what goes on much later.

There are steps you can prevent to safeguard yourself a bit better. They're not always foolproof - sometimes it's no good if you have to have half the room on block but fortunately things do move on, new rooms are created, members leave. It's about sticking it out if you really feel you need support.

Chat won't always be the place it is now, so try not to give up on it completely. I'm sorry you weren't better supported. I'm all for a laugh and joke but that doesn't mean courtesy etc. has to go out the window.

We're not all sarcastic and self centered and chat is definitely not a reflection of this place as whole.

Take good care.

[-jimi-]

I think for chat as it has become (or always was, I don't know), it is of importance to know we are all individuals. Just because one person treats you bad, the next might treat you right. It is quite crucial for your own wellbeing if using chat, to know which people rarely or never offer support. Then it will not hurt as much if those particular people say negative things. The worst you can do is assume that everyone is the same, and it seems that you have concluded that many are not "against" you, which is a good thing. Trying to get a kind word out of some, like in real life, is like trying to squeeze water out of a rock. It is better not trying.

Take care and I hope you feel better.

[Lostdeepinspace]

Thank you all for your kinds words. I know that it was just a particular situation and that not everyone on here will lash out. Most are kind and understanding and for that reason I will stay on the forum. I really enjoy talking to alot of you. You have no idea how much you help me through the hard times Thanks to all.