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Old Feb 08, 2018, 01:32 PM
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He is asking me to forgive him and reinstate his membership, but I don't have that power. I told him it wasn't up to me and there are consequences for actions, even when you ask for forgiveness or fix things. It doesn't mean it makes what you did just disappear.
So he is banned from here? Who did that? All he has to do is sign up with a different email and username and will be back on here. Beside you do not have to be signed up to read this forum.
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Old Feb 08, 2018, 01:35 PM
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Actually there is something like that, a "member's only" posting section. It's called the "Premier Poobah Forum" here: https://forums.psychcentral.com/premier-poohbah-forum/

I think you have to be at a level of "Poohbah" to access that section though which I think is "3,000 posts in any amount of time, or 600 posts in about 4 years' time, or is a part of our moderation team here." as the section rules have stated.

The only downside is, I don't think you guys have made it to that many posts yet, so if you want to rack up some posts, hang out in the "Games" section or "General Social Chat" section and contribute. I mean I had done that a while back when I wanted to have a "Custom User Title" which is probably a silly reason for doing that, but then again, silly things usually make me happy.

Again, I am sorry this happened to you scarlett35 and that you feel this way Moxie, I am sure someone will address this soon, if not DocJohn then at least one of the moderators can at least weigh in.

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I don't think that's silly at all.

the idea of being a "poohbah" totally freaked me out for some reason, and I didn't much like the idea of being an "elder", because when I thought of the word elder, I kept thinking of religion and I'm not that religious (I am, but maybe in diffrent ways)
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Old Feb 08, 2018, 01:37 PM
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Because of this situation I just do not feel safe that my words are not going to be used out side on another site in a article without my permission.

I will still be here lingering and if I feel I need to add my 2 cents to a post I will private message the OP.


I think it's a shame you can no longer post here

I admit, I've not read many of your threads, but the threads/ responses I have seen from you are very respectfull/ apreciative of others opinions.
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Old Feb 08, 2018, 01:41 PM
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Poohbah is not safe as anyone can donate money and then have access. Anyone wanting material from here would be willing to donate $20 bucks and then have a lifetime of access to a "members only" section.
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Old Feb 08, 2018, 01:57 PM
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So he is banned from here? Who did that? All he has to do is sign up with a different email and username and will be back on here. Beside you do not have to be signed up to read this forum.
I do not know how or why he was banned. All I know is his account was suspended. I do not want to speculate further because we aren't suppose to talk about other members, past or present. I don't mind discussing his blog and its affect on us here, but I won't speculate about his posts or actions as a member.

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Old Feb 08, 2018, 02:47 PM
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just my added thoughts.... this person taking down that used with out permission posting is not going to solve the problem. there is no way of knowing how many have had access to that post they made on their website that may have copied it for their own usage or copy pasted to their own journals, blogs and sites... even if they take it down now, minutes hours or days after having it up, there are those who may already have seen and used it... there is no way of deleting it off that websites servers and internet providers records, there is no way to completely delete it off that persons own home computers hard drive....

my own opinion is that there is only one solution here and that is to pay attention to our own internet safety rules.

for me and my children that means I dont post anything anywhere on the internet that I would not stand outside my home in the middle of the street with a bullhorn shouting through the city. if its so private that I only want certain people to know then I tell those people face to face, not on some computer or cell phone, or internet website.
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Old Feb 08, 2018, 04:40 PM
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just my added thoughts.... this person taking down that used with out permission posting is not going to solve the problem. there is no way of knowing how many have had access to that post they made on their website that may have copied it for their own usage or copy pasted to their own journals, blogs and sites... even if they take it down now, minutes hours or days after having it up, there are those who may already have seen and used it... there is no way of deleting it off that websites servers and internet providers records, there is no way to completely delete it off that persons own home computers hard drive....

my own opinion is that there is only one solution here and that is to pay attention to our own internet safety rules.

for me and my children that means I dont post anything anywhere on the internet that I would not stand outside my home in the middle of the street with a bullhorn shouting through the city. if its so private that I only want certain people to know then I tell those people face to face, not on some computer or cell phone, or internet website.
Then this sight losses most of its purpose for me.
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Old Feb 08, 2018, 04:44 PM
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Luckily I don't post anything that can identify me easily and I usually amend a few details as to keep it more personal but it's something to flag up for those who want to remain anonymous
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Old Feb 08, 2018, 05:59 PM
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https://www.emaxhealth.com/1/i-know-...-dont-know-how

You want to bet this is also from a post here.
Wait, thats from one of my threads. Ffs.
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Old Feb 08, 2018, 06:56 PM
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I agree. I feel uncomfortable about posting now.
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Old Feb 08, 2018, 07:18 PM
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It's not just about anonymity.

This guy clearly doesn't have the ability to genuinely empathise, or write well. But he's presenting himself as someone who can. By using our emotional intelligence!

If our EI was won at no cost, that's one thing. But most of us have gone through some sort of hell.

It's a gruelling feeling, putting it into words.

This person is being both insensitive and unethical.

It would be easy, surely, for an algorithm to spot when a piece of writing has been used elsewhere?

Apparently, literary agents do this all the time, to make sure a potential author hasn't already published on the net.

Similarly, facial recognition technology is available as an app anyone can put on their phone.

In these hi tech times, and as the forum is nothing but a net business, surely, a solution can be found.
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Old Feb 08, 2018, 07:31 PM
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I don't know how other people feel about this, but my gut feeling is to ignore him as much as possible... just be aware anything you write here could end up being used on a different web site for someone else's purpose.
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Old Feb 08, 2018, 08:22 PM
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Yeah, I agree with ignoring him. Also, his articles and site are so poorly written, so many typos and the style is so poor, I can't imagine he gets very much traffic at all. Even when he changed them to take out the quotes, the style where he says he read elsewhere on the internet is SO poor and scammy, I feel anyone with a brain would discount him really quick.

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Old Feb 08, 2018, 08:23 PM
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It does not change the fact that anyone can do what he did. We are not protected here.
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Old Feb 08, 2018, 09:33 PM
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I wouldn’t mind if our posts sparked discussion elsewhere. It is the near direct quoting that is problematic. This guy seems like a total creep. I’m all for calling him out and making him answer for what he is doing, maybe warning others about this person posing as a counselor.

If he has a yelp page for counseling by all means leave a review for his unethical behavior
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Old Feb 08, 2018, 10:01 PM
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It does not change the fact that anyone can do what he did. We are not protected here.
It's a public online forum. How much protection did you expect?
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wait ... wait ... before any of us go into further panic.... I'll be general here and not member specific -

It's clear PC doesn't tolerate this crap and any member who does that will have their account suspended.

I think we're pretty protected.

Yeah what he did was acting like a dumb ____ but he's gone.
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wait ... wait ... before any of us go into further panic.... I'll be general here and not member specific -

It's clear PC doesn't tolerate this crap and any member who does that will have their account suspended.

I think we're pretty protected.

Yeah what he did was acting like a dumb ____ but he's gone.
I think this armen guy needs to delete the two posts that lift psychcentral material. Or get permission from the content owners.
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Old Feb 09, 2018, 05:44 AM
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I wouldn't care if he hadn't directly quoted me. I wouldn't have even noticed!
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Why isn't DocJohn saying anything in this or the other thread that raised this issue? Suspicious.....
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Why isn't DocJohn saying anything in this or the other thread that raised this issue? Suspicious.....
Maybe he doing things behind the scenes. Maybe getting his lawyer to draw up a cease and desist letter ready.

I would like to see a post from him saying that he is taking care of the situation to let us know he is on top of it.
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Wow... just read through most of this thread. This is most disturbing. I hope the OP feels a bit safer about posting, but I totally get feeling violated and reluctant to post personal issues based on this experience. That is so not right what this person did. I am appalled at their actions. Also appalled at their responses about their actions. I am glad several members stepped in. I am sure that DocJohn has read this thread. The title grabbed my attention for sure. I am not adding anything particularly new, but I just wanted to add my expressed concern over the issue and my sympathy to the OP for this happening to them.
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Wow... just read through most of this thread. This is most disturbing. I hope the OP feels a bit safer about posting, but I totally get feeling violated and reluctant to post personal issues based on this experience. That is so not right what this person did. I am appalled at their actions. Also appalled at their responses about their actions. I am glad several members stepped in. I am sure that DocJohn has read this thread. The title grabbed my attention for sure. I am not adding anything particularly new, but I just wanted to add my expressed concern over the issue and my sympathy to the OP for this happening to them.
Where do you get info for your blog?
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Where do you get info for your blog?
My blog is ALL original material that I write myself. I do not use anything from this forum, no personal stories or quotes. I come up with the topics and research them myself. If I do quote, I quote other articles that I find online. When I mention on my blog that I help people on a mental health forum, I am referring to another forum, not PC. That is the only mention of a forum that I make.
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Wow... just read through most of this thread. This is most disturbing. I hope the OP feels a bit safer about posting, but I totally get feeling violated and reluctant to post personal issues based on this experience. That is so not right what this person did. I am appalled at their actions. Also appalled at their responses about their actions. I am glad several members stepped in. I am sure that DocJohn has read this thread. The title grabbed my attention for sure. I am not adding anything particularly new, but I just wanted to add my expressed concern over the issue and my sympathy to the OP for this happening to them.
Im the OP of this thread but it was not my post that was stolen. After seeing what happened I just can't post personal stories anymore regarding my experience with therapist or mental health issues in life.
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