[leomama]

Hi everyone
I notice we don't have our own check in thread.

I'll get started.

This afternoon I got a phone call back from my dad. I had called him yesterday to ask him a question about his work history then my brother texted me and I called him again to ask him if my brother had called him. He didn't answer either time. Then he called me back after 8 and my phone was in do not disturb mode. He called me again this afternoon and I picked up.

I asked him my questions and then tried to end the conversation . I made the mistake of telling him I had to go because I had to go to the post office to mail my partner's phone back to him so he could put a new battery in it since my daughter dropped her phone in her boyfriend's toilet.

He said that my daughter was a train wreck about to happen.

I told him it wasn't his problem so don't worry about it. I also told him he wasn't willing to pay for treatment for her so he needed to leave it alone.

My daughter heard what her grandfather said and it hurt her feelings.

She said rightfully so that he had no right to say anything since he wasn't involved in her life.

I got a huge insight into why I'm so hard on the outside. I had to defend myself against that all my life.

I didn't have mental health problems until after my divorce and that's when I got dx with c-PTSD.

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[Trace14]

Present and unaccounted for.

[leomama]

I'm still processing what my father said yesterday in tandem with the fact my daughter is still disobeying me and spending the night at her boyfriend's house on a school night. Neither my father nor her father are intervening and yet both are blaming and judging me for her behavior. To say its not fair would be an understatement. Luckily one of my therapists gave me the number for a mobile crisis unit I can call next time I need assistance as the police giving her a ticket has done nothing to stop her behavior. So for the most part I do not contact with my father or her father because it is further trauma on top of the trauma her behavior is causing me. So I'm dealing with my flashbacks from my adolescence , her behavior, and shaming by my father and her father. Its a toxic stew.

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by leomama

I'm still processing what my father said yesterday in tandem with the fact my daughter is still disobeying me and spending the night at her boyfriend's house on a school night. Neither my father nor her father are intervening and yet both are blaming and judging me for her behavior. To say its not fair would be an understatement. Luckily one of my therapists gave me the number for a mobile crisis unit I can call next time I need assistance as the police giving her a ticket has done nothing to stop her behavior. So for the most part I do not contact with my father or her father because it is further trauma on top of the trauma her behavior is causing me. So I'm dealing with my flashbacks from my adolescence , her behavior, and shaming by my father and her father. Its a toxic stew.

How old is she?

[leomama]

Originally Posted by Trace14

How old is she?

I would prefer to answer in a pm, I hope that does not offend you.

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[LovelyChantel]

Sorry to hear about all those stressors. Support to you. Can understand.

[leomama]

Originally Posted by LovelyChantel

Sorry to hear about all those stressors. Support to you. Can understand.

Thank you. I have an excellent therapist who is helping me in a very challenging situation where I have to make very difficult decisions with no family support.

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[Trace14]

Originally Posted by leomama

I would prefer to answer in a pm, I hope that does not offend you.

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Not at all. If it concerns you don't do it at all, I understand

[leomama]

Originally Posted by Trace14

Not at all. If it concerns you don't do it at all, I understand

Thank you, it does and I appreciate it.

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[Trace14]

Originally Posted by leomama

Thank you, it does and I appreciate it.

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No problem

Doing ok! Hugs to everyone. xo

[leomama]

Good to hear, starting off the day feeling annoyed as heck. Not good.

Hello ...

My name is BrokenCloud but you can call me BC for short.

I think it's neat that we have a check-in thread.

A bit fuzzy headed today and generally that's a sign that I'm dissociative.

Therefore I'm doing a little self-care to recenter myself today.

Thanks for letting me share!

BC