Every single relationship!

When I look back through my life since middle school almost every single friendship or relationship has been with someone who has the support of their family of origin.

It's really upsetting to me to see how I've been mistreated by men in particular.

The busiest forum on this site is the relationship forum leomama. A lot of this is because relationships in general are a challenge. You are not as alone as you think you are.

Men have been raised to "hide" their emotions and because of that many men struggle and have some deep issues that often come out as anger which ends up hurting a lot of women not just you.

Oh I chose not to post there but didn't want to post in the abuse forum.

I'm talking about neither and about both genders.

This is trauma related.

I hate the term no worries with a passion.

That's what triggers me. To tell that to a person with ptsd is insulting and I'm not going to disclose I have ptsd unless I feel I have to like in a stressful work situation.

I was reminded of a jerk who dated me and the women in his family and it really triggered me however the onset of this emotion was brought on by two millennial women I had to interact with in the customer service world.

Ok, in your post you had said you were mistreated by men in particular. I can understand how you might be triggered by both males and females, especially because of the unfortunate way PTSD can make someone a lot more sensitive.

That being said, from what I am seeing in our society in general there has been such a surge in women needing to claim their rights that a lot of men can even be more lost depending on how old they are. This is because there STILL has been this theme of "men are not allowed to have feelings". Men are in a world now where they are often competing with women and yet at the same time they have to control their emotions and even at times be submissive. Some women can be very demanding and entitled all the way around and that can be a challenge all in itself if you happen to be one who is sensitive. And some men are just simply frustrated because god forbid they don't respond the way they are somehow supposed to just know how to respond.

It's a challenge taking place period, but can be more difficult if one is struggling with the sensitivity that comes with PTSD.

Um, my trigger is real.

(((leomama))) I believe you, I get them myself so I understand. Please know it's not my intention to invalidate a trigger.

I didn't say you invalidated me.

Ok, glad to know that. One of the things I do when I see someone struggling, even when I am struggling myself is I make an effort to look at the bigger picture where people do behave badly or interact in ways that can be hurtful in general. I do this so I don't see myself as being so "out there and alone" in the way I struggle and feel and I try to do that for others as well if I can. It's never meant to lesson someone's genuine challenge, but more to help them not feel so alone with a challenge that really is reflecting something that person is experiencing that actually "is" toxic. I have found that helpful for myself in that I get a validation for "yeah, you are right, I see that as well".

See someone struggling?