Welcome to Coping with Emotions

I've generally felt this way for many years now.
However, I keep coming back to only ONE answer: keep trying.
Whether you believe it or not, I think you're doing exactly that by reaching out here.

I hope today brings you a bit more hope.

Is this a private forum? Im worried that my posts will show up in "google" search and what not.

lovEternal - I googled my user name and didn't come up with anything linking me back to this site. You may want to post this question in the technical support thread.

Hi there, I'm not sure if you've gotten this question answered or not. This is a public forum, if you google psych central you can get here and to the forums. You do not need a username to see these posts.

If I type into google "Psych Central Coping with emotions" I can get to this subforum, but if I type in your user name additionally it does not go to your profile. For someone to see what you've written here they'd have to know your username. Hope this helps. The previous poster was right there's also another section of the forums in which these questions are normally answered, and you can always PM a moderator or admin with any questions.

I am in a rough place. I don't think I've had many safe times to express emotions--I've usually been told some form of 'you shouldn't feel that', especially when it's an emotion such as anger or upset.

What can I do for this?

I was told something similar, growing up. I see a T who helps me to figure out my emotions and lets me know that its OK to have them even if I don't know where they are coming from. She also told me yesterday that I need to remember that the emotions are just feelings and that the feelings can't hurt me. Not sure if that helps. You could post your own thread here in this section asking for advice.

Excellent!! Thanks so much for posting that! My old T used to tell me the same thing all the time.

I've always had a difficult time separating feelings from reality in certain situations.
It really does help to constantly reassure ourselves that feelings cannot hurt us.

um. what is a good way to cope with emotions? i have alot of them and i lash out, or express them very badly. i dont know how to deal with them.

thanks for this website it will be really helpful.

Re: Coping with emotions

Hi to everyone! I am new to this site and feel I will be able to gain some very helpful & insightful information from you. I have extreme difficulty identifying emotions. I feel the first step to understanding yourself (at least for me) is to be able to identify what you are feeling before you can begin to know what your needs are. I wish you all a sense of calmness and peace within. We all so deserve it

Thank you

Im here to help. Hello

Thank you so much

I am new here! I kinda ended up here by accident or divine intervention or something......but it saved my life .... I'm grateful and Thank you!

Thanks! I'm sure this forum will help me. I need to control and recongise my feelings.

It is hard to know what you are feeling or what to name the feelings if you were never allowed to "feel". I would have to say that there is such a war inside of feelings that I don't know what to call them.

Sometimes I feel like I'm the world's most emotional man. But I guess some of this is part of being bipolar. Or, actually, in my case a lot of it is about being bipolar.

I cry easily, but not unnecessarily. In other words, when I cry, there's something to cry about... but it doesn't have to be something that would cause many others to cry. (I even cry at sappy commercials).

Anyway, good topic.

This topic certainly applies to me. Emotions always get in my way. How's that for a black-and-white statement? I am pondering how to have the appropriate emotions toward my two deceased parents. My mother was an abusive alcoholic and my father enabled her. Yet, they both provided me with many travel and educational opportunities. I am grateful for the advantages - music lessons - but hate them for the many beatings and verbal abuse I endured. and also my father, a physician who could have gotten my mother into psychiatric treatment but didn't, who stood by and did nothing. He was a doctor (died last Dec. 10) My mother would even tell him to hit me with his belt. He obeyed. He loved my mother to the end. SHe abused and even hit him too. The reason for his unfailing loyalty to her is a mystery to me. I feel guilty about hating them. SOrry if my verbiage is a little convoluted. The emotions arising from me while writing this are getting in the way of rational communication.

I am emotionally challenged to say the least. I never seem to have the right emotion at the appropriate time. This is one thing I need to work on.

Thanks for welcoming me. I am really confused about how all my emotions relate to one another. as an artist and as a regular woman, its really hard not to be able to understand yourself.

I have always had a hard time expressing how I feel to others. I would like to be able to talk to people and share my emotions. Sometimes all you need is a kind ear to listen.
Thank You
Reesa

I too have a struggle with my emotions. My husband and son have battled depression for many years and the stress in our home can be overwhelming at times. It seems as though as time has gone on, I can't handle things the way I did in the past. Now, I will be angery, laugh or cry, sometimes all within an hour.
I recently started therphy and I am hopful this will help me manange my reactions to the stress in my life.

I've alway been taught that showing emotion is a sign of weakness therfore, I do not want to open up about those feelings. I have been in therapy for many years and still don't feel that I can them out. I'm afraid of judgement. Currently I am attending group therapy and don't feel that I am getting much from it. Wondering if it's because I'm afraid to open up.

I hate feeling the way I feel

When it comes to emotion for human, I categorize it to two different types. Instinctual or animal kind of emotions (such as fear, content, sadness, ego, etc.) , and intellectual ones (such as jealousy, greed, love, disappointment, etc.). And I believe, that climate and culture has a lot to do with which one people seek for. Tell me if I am wrong, but I have noticed, looking at the people from different parts of the world, those that naturally and biologically are more likely to experience the instinctual emotions, are the ones that look more for the second kind. That's why I see more of emotions such as love, jealousy, greed in warm climate, as for people from colder climate are more inclined to find a way to experience the first kind. That being said, it agrees with the biological explanation of emotion, which is a biochemistry reaction caused by hormones in human. Climate, and food are the two major factors on hormones level in people, therefore, they also affect their emotions.

If one is not satisfied with what his or her biochemistry is creating in form of emotions, the best way to cope with it is to change those two factors first. To put it in a metaphor, if your body can not deal with spicy food, then change your diet!

A friend of mine, a very hot blooded guy, who was the person that always his out of control emotions were getting a best of him in any social situation (and of course causing a lot of grief) followed my advice. Changed his diet and the climate he lived in, and now he is in a full control of his emotions. However, since what he is doing is against his nature, it is making him a none satisfied and unhappy person, but at least he is in control!