[lokipooh]

I don't know why but I always felt so guilty when something didn't go well. I like to plan things and hope for the best but even if it's someone else's problem I always say I'm sorry when did that become the first thing you tell people. It doesn't comfort me when someone tells me. Well sometimes it does but give me advice or tell me something funny. I guess that is one of the reasons I had such a long relationship I always felt guilt and sad maybe alot of it came from the way he said things but I was stuck. I just kept feeling like everything was my fault.

[bpd2]

Hi, lokipooh--I saw my psychiatrist yesterday for an extended visit--we do a one-hour every 6 or7 months. I was talking about trying to write a book with my dad, and the emotional difficulties of that--not to mention the logistical ones. What he said was, "Do what you do for yourself, not for what you think it will do for them. You can't know what they really need--sometimes they don't either." So...do what you do for yourself--for your best interests--with other people, for what good you can get out of it emotionally. Sounded like good advice to me.

Hello, lokipooh. Perhaps this article may help: http://kctherapist.blogspot.com/2008...and-shame.html

Have you talked to your therapist about you concerns?

Be well.