[twistedmoon]

First I would like to say hello to everyone! I looked around the site and it strikes me as very helpful and the forum very supportive and friendly.

Right now Im going through a very very chalenging time and never in my worst nightmares thought to find myself in this horrible position.I dont know how to "deal" with this, if there even is a way to do that! Recently my husband *was, just out of the blue, arrested for sexual assault of a 14 year old girl. The allegations against him were absolutly disgusting. He was not found guilty by the judge, but the process of it all has been very difficult for me mentally.Now barely two months later he is being investigated for multiple rapes and murders. I feel like my entire life is falling apart around me. The investigation and implications are beyond frightening and my mind has been so jumbled by it all ! Our marriage has been in jeopardy as it was for the past year and now with all of this on top of it I just dont know what to do. Thank you for listening

[Leed]

Bless your heart ~ Obviously the man you married is NOT who you thought he was. They wouldn't be investigating him if they didn't have GOOD REASON. I find it interesting that he was found "not guilty" and now he's being investigated for rapes & murders. Good grief.

Dearheart ~ if you have children, and IF he's out on bail, I would suggest that you take your kids and go stay at your mothers or something. Get out of the house. This man is NOT RIGHT. If he thinks that he doesn't have any way out, he may do something outrageous. You need to think of your OWN safety and that of your kids (if you have any). Just tell him that your Mom is sick or something -- or tell him anything. Just get the heck out of there!!!

Will you please? I pray you do. God bless. Hugs, Lee
PS ~ Let me know, will you?

[lavieenrose]

I agree with Leed, Twistedmoon. Get away from this man as fast as you can. Don't even bother with excuses. You don't owe any.

[twistedmoon]

Thank you so much for your concern. I must sound like a total idiot. I have known my husband for going on twenty years and hes never intentionaly hurt me. Really!We have talked somewhat about the circumstances and he feels hes being unfairly targeted because of his mental health history. Even though we have certainly had our share of problems marriage-wise, *especially lately, I could never just leave him and my entire life because of what the police may think right now. To answer your question no we dont have any children. Im just really having a very difficult time dealing with so much at once, and even with the problems we have had deep down I want to be there for him and feel so guilty just for the doubt Ive let slip into my mind about all of this