[radio_flyer]

I am not all that angry at this very moment. Guess what I need to say is grrrrrrrrrr. Maybe I am still angry. I am angry that the renter had the "NERVE" and I say the "nerve" to say we talked for 45 minutes about his rent... I would surely remember talking to him for 45 minutues, especially when it was about changing everything we talked about a few days earler..........I even had him sign the calendar on the date and the amount due so there would be no confusion...... And he tries to say that it was to be for APril's rent.. And I say helloooooooooooo why would we talk about April's rent when February and March's rent has not been paid yet????

OK so I am not as angry as I was earlier, guess I still am....... I told AJ"s dad I gave the renter his 30 days notice. I told the renter I am not chasing him every night for the rent and if he is not responsible enough to give the rent money to me, that he needs to find another place.....I told Aj's dad and he said ok........ Lets see who all remembers this..... Now it is in writing....... grrrrrrrrrrr

Good for you, radio_flyer.

You can vent out all your feelings all you want It's better to let it out and tell people.

[radio_flyer]

T hanks Byz and happycheeks...

AM thinking you guys here prob think I can't get along with anyone. If it isn't AJ, it is someone else.. That isn't the case.. Just there is way too much frustration with everything that is going on here that I honestly can't stand it anymore.

All I wanted to do was plant flowers and veggies..and mow the lawan... geesh

I was not thinking that, radio_flyer. Besides, I am the one who cannot get along with anyone.

[lynn P.]

(((radio flyer))) - we used to own 2 rental houses before the bad ecnomy hit. I know first hand how difficult it is, dealing with renters. I don't think it's you at all. They'll try to get away with things, so it's good you're being firm. Always keep a written record and give out receipts/keep a copy for yourself, when your renter conveniently gets amnesia lol. Like you said on my other thread - we can grrrrrrrrrr together. It's really helps being able to vent here and we don't mind listening.

[radio_flyer]

Hmm Byz.. never thought of you as being one who cannot get along with others. I can say you have sent me to the "dictionary" many times...

Thanks (((((Lynn)))))) AJ's dad asked me to collect the rent since he is still mad at AJ for passing a good job. When he was told what the job was paying, well he hasn't been the same since. SO I have only been the "collector" of rent since the beginning of March and within a week I've given the renter his 30 days to vacate. Guess that is a sure sign I've had "enough"...

Renter asked me if AJ gave me money last night.. I said well "no" and he said I was sleeping so he gave AJ $20 towards his rent. I told him so I was sleeping at 4 AM and that he should have given it to me today. I said whatever money I don't get I don't count towards his rent.. I also suggested that he pay "higher" amounts and that $20 a day isn't a good idea.. Too many headaches with these guys here...

[embracinglife]

good thing you gave him the 30 day notice so he will be out of your life soon.

[radio_flyer]

Umm it isn't that I want the "renter" out of my life.. I am just tired of the cat and mouse games... Catch me if you can and I will pay pennies towards the rent.. He hasn't paid on time since he has been here..He takes whatever he needs too..He hasn't bought his own laundry detergent since he's been here...And whatever he fancies in the kitchen he helps himself to.... without even asking.... I do believe it is time for him to move on...........He can always move back with his parents...

[radio_flyer]

I lied... I sugar coated it again...... Yes, I would like to not have to deal with renters... they come here... don't pay their rent... take what they want... do what they want... they don't pay enough rent to have to deal with their "crap" .. maybe that is the key... raise the rent enough to make who collects the rent "smile".. profit would be nice............ hmmmmmmmmmmmm

Everybody around here has money for clubs four nights a week, if not more... but nobody has rent money..

Hello, radio_flyer. I am glad you gave notice to the rent-challenged one. Some people are going to take advantage of someone they perceive as a soft touch until they learn otherwise.

Make a sign that says rent is due in full on the first of the month. Tell them you are not the YMCA or Salvation Army. Put a lock on the refrigerator. Hide the detergent. Require a security deposit of at least one month's rent with the understanding it will be applied to making the rental space tenantable and to any rent owed upon termination of the lease provided that is legal in your jurisdiction.

Good luck.

[radio_flyer]

Yes, it is true, I am soft-hearted.. The renter ran out of gas this morning and had to walk to the gas station to get gas before he could go to work. I felt so bad for him because it is raining so all I could offer was an umbrella, which he appreciated..

Thanks Byz...you are always helpful....

[radio_flyer]

i think the bottom line is, I'm exhausted, burned out and anyone that gets in my way will be run over...... My tolerance has zeroed out.. My compassion is limited... Am tired of caring about how every one is doing. Is time to worry how I'm doing. Just I don't know how to take care of me. It has always been others first...Their feelings. Their wellbeing.. Now I wonder if I was born this way or I was beaten into compliance.......Guess it doesn't matter.. What matters is what I do with what I have left, now..............When depleted one hides, "is what I've done for many years" or wake up, face reality and move forward and don't look back............sounds good but can I really do it....... rolls eyes at self... think i am more angry at me for letting things get so out of hand