[AliDuran]

My husband has been prescribed Xanax for anxiety issues. He was fine before he was prescribed this and now i feel it's effecting his mental status. when we argue over this and that, mainly money, jobs, friends and such, i'm noticing that he doesn't seem to hear or process what i'm saying and things get out of control. he repeats everything he has already said and i'm patient and listen for the fifth time but this only seems to happen if he's taken the med. he seems to take it when predicting an uncomfortable circumstance. without the med we can work it out and listen to each other and hug. with it we usually end up sleeping in different rooms. Is this a side effect of the med or just marrige?.

[Can't Stop Crying]

I'm not sure I have the answer. Xanax can lead to a kinda groggy feeling where it is hard to pay attention and concentrate. Has he talked to his doc about this? Have you talked to him about this?

Sending good thoughts your way!

[Perna]

Hi, AliDuran, welcome to PsychCentral. It does sound like there is a change in your husband's behavior because of the med; I would discuss that with him when he hasn't taken the med and see if you all can't decide if taking it is worth it to him and you. He may have to decide to work with some anxiety rather than avoid it by making difficult discussions even more difficult.

However, if you are having the "same" arguments all the time, I would work on solving that so they don't recur. If problems are not getting solved, it's not how you are arguing that is the problem. Maybe writing things down would help?

[IceCreamKid]

I'm sure someone will come along after me and tell you.

[madisgram]

when i was on xanex i actually had mental blackouts-sometimes for a lengthy time. my hubby at the time said it was like i was 2 different people. i pooh-poohed this comment but turns out he was right. i changed anxiety meds and don't have this result/behavior/symptoms.
i'd encourage him to talk with his doc about this. he may decide to change hubby's med. in conversation with hubby you can discuss the changes you see. hopefully he will be encouraged to discuss this with you for verification and seek out talking with the doc who prescribed it. many ppl have some different side effects with drugs.

[missbelle]

I have been on Xanax .5 milligrams which is low for over ten years. I take two a day and have never had to up it. It really helps me. Could be he is on too high of a dose at this time. I would have him call his Dr......but then the Dr. might feel that for now the dosage is just what he needs...
Good luck and thinking of both of you

P.s Xanax just relaxes me but does not make me groggy

[AliDuran]

Thanks everyone for your advice. I have talked to him about it a couple times but he sees it as me pointing out things I don't like about him. I told him today it's not him i don't like, it's the way the medication make him. I don't think he has ever dealt with real problems. If something got serious or stressful, he always used the herbal method for calming down. I don't have much of a problem with that but am realizing he has never dealt with stress with a clear head and probably doesn't know how to. And now that he is prescribed xanax and not smoking I think he may be overtaking the medication on stressful days. He doesn't take them everyday like the script is filled for but still picks them up monthly. So maybe that's the problem. Huh... sometimes just writing it down helps. never used a forum like this but i see why they are so useful!!