[LittleForgetMeNot]

Things seem to be getting to me today. I'm in a rant mood but it's given me a headache.

FIRST: My ex-best friend sends me the song the both of us used to like. With her it's like a peace-offering or a sign of wanting to be friends again. I was triggered and ranted for over an hour of how much I dislike her.

SECOND: My cousins who don't know each other (i'm sure one another weren't even aware the other existed), add each other on facebook. Not such a big deal, but I seen it and automatic reaction was "omg, please tell me they know they're both my cousins and somehow family even though not blood related". My second reaction was "who the hell is going through my list to see what people they haven't got added yet!". People shouldn't be adding people they don't know!!! I have no idea why this bothers me so much but my Dad's side of the family and my Moms' side of the family have always been two VERY SEPARATED bubbles (i haven't' spoken to anyone on my dad's side in YEARS) and them crossing is like.. suddenly the laws of physics don't exist anymore, my brain is going to explode and the world will end by next friday.

Why is life doing this tooo meeee

[Leed]

Goodness sakes ~ you DO need to de-stress. As for your ex-friend ~ just because she sent you a song that both of you used to like doesn't mean that you have to acknowledge it. Since you obviously dislike her, just IGNORE it. Take her off your contact list ~ block her. Do what you need to do so she doesn't contact you again. This isn't worth the stress.

And as for your cousins contacting one another ~ so what??? How does that affect YOU? If they want to be friends, I don't see how that should bother you. They could have met at a party or something ~ who knows?? But it really doesn't affect you. And if the two of them should even want to get together with you ~ you could always say no. LOL

Why sweat the SMALL stuff?? Save your sanity for the REAL big stuff that befalls us from time to time. This isn't worth getting up for. LOL Try to learn what's worth your time and what isn't -- this definitely ISN'T. Hugs, Lee

[LittleForgetMeNot]

There has just been a lot of drama lately, involving my family and my birthday and friends and all that. When I'm trying to calm down from the big things the little things get to me as well.

[Perna]

Facebook probably gave your cousins each other's names (as "suggestions" or as your-friend-has-these-friends-why-don't-you-befriend-them-too and, maybe, one has the same last name as yours? Maybe they play the same game and just need another "body" to add to their number; I don't think it is always going to be about us.

Obviously your ex-friend doesn't know how much you "hate" her, why don't you tell her again?

[shezbut]

LittleForgetMeNot

Take some slow, deep breaths. Get back in touch with what is important to you right now. NOW, now. Let go of those other little things.

It isn't easy. I understand that. But, once you focus on this very moment, then you can address that things that really matter to you. There may be something underlying all of the things that you mentioned that is the real cause of the boom. Or maybe things just seem to be piling up on you.

Break things down as much as possible, to understand what really matters to you and what doesn't. Then it will be easier to deal with. Personally, I write my thoughts and emotions down on a paper. There is something to that...it "frees" me. Typing in the computer isn't the same release for me. So, you may want to try writing it all down, to see what really matters to you right now.

Best wishes & gentle hugs to you!

[LittleForgetMeNot]

The cousin thing was bugging me as when I got into a convo about them adding each other, he gave off the impression like he was about to ask her out. They're not blood-related, only to me they are, but it kind of gave me a very uncomfortable feeling.

I'm sure my ex-friend is very well aware how much I hate her, as she went out of her way to make sure she could make my life a living hell. The only time she has ever tried to come back and be friends again was so she could regain my trust and then crush me. She has caused me a lot of emotional distress and when she comes around my anxiety goes crazy. I do not reply to her usually, and if I do it's just to shut her down, tell her to go away but the anxiety hits no matter what I do.

[shezbut]

Originally Posted by LittleForgetMeNot

The cousin thing was bugging me as when I got into a convo about them adding each other, he gave off the impression like he was about to ask her out. They're not blood-related, only to me they are, but it kind of gave me a very uncomfortable feeling.

That is something that could bring up a lot of uncomfortable thoughts and memories. I can really relate to that. I can see where you might become overwhelmed and dismissive w/ the thought. Personally, that is an area that I avoid like the plague!

I can't give you any ideas on what to do with FB. Some people are really into it...but, I'm not. It's no big deal for me to not go in there at all. Others practically live on that site though, you know? LOL So, if you are like me, and aren't real attached to the site, maybe you could just remove yourself from the FB site & get rid of some stress and worries in one pale swoop. If you are attached to FB, then I have no idea how to work through it. I know that my FB page is set to be visible to only my contacts. I don't want others looking in there ~ not that I talk about deep things, but I don't need a list of 500 contacts either.

Maybe that helps you?? I hope so. ((LittleForgetMeNot))