Self soothing techniques?

When you are feeling depressed, and need/want to be held/comforted what do you do to relax sooth yourself?

I find I am sometimes desperate for human touch but I can't always receive it. I'm not sure how to become less dependent on it. I am the kind of person who could cuddle 24/7 and it's unhealthy and smothering my boyfriend.

I find spa baths are nice, soothing and tactile. A friend of mine has a snuggle scarf because her significant other was feeling smothered.

I love hot baths, and a snuggle scarf sounds like a good idea. Maybe I will pull out my old baby blanket.
Thank you for the good ideas.

I bought a stuffed animal recently, kind of a beanbag lion with a friendly smile, big enough that I can hug at night when my husband isn't here. Yeah, I know I'm a little old for it, but honestly, it helps me.

thea

Cuddling with a pile of pillows, wrapping yourself in a blanket, cuddling with a stuffed animal or agreeable pet or taking a bath might help you feel comforted and give your bf a little space. Best of luck and take care!

I saw a few of the big bean bag type animals at the store before, I actually really want one. I dont think one can ever be too old for a big cuddly stuffed pet. I think that might help me when I'm feeling lonely. I could crawl into bed with it after a hot bath.

These are all great ideas. I think I need to try some of them myself.

These are great ideas. I also like to snuggle my pets and do things that show appreciation for my body, like painting my nails.

I also tend to eat...not a good way to cope!

I got one of those things from TV- I don't remember what they're called, the blanket-type things that you wear. It was on sale at kmart. They're so warm!!!! And so chic especially layered over pajamas and slippers.

lavender soak bath....ahhh calgon take me awayyyyy.

I have found that regular deep pressure helps to lower my snuggle needs to something I can reasonably get. I work with a massage therapist weekly who does deep pressure. My dog (75lb) is trained to put her front paws on me or lay across me to do deep pressure. although rather expensive weighted blankets are one of the best things ever! And... much to my bosses dismay... even when I was one of the top people in our company I always brought my blankie when I traveled. (He found out when I pulled it out on the plane a few times.

warm baths or showers, massage therapy, sometimes I give myself a massage.

Warm drinks.

going someplace in nature, like the beach. I love to play with the sand, dig into it with my fingers and toes. Once I made a stress ball out of it and squeezed it as hard as I could and that felt good.

Feeling the sun warm on my skin.

Knowing that I don't always need someone else to touch me or define me...

ty,

Billi

I find it hard to employ self soothing methods because I find that, though I know that they would work, I tend to refuse to bother with them when I need them the most. Although the most effective ones I've found have been hot showers and chain smoking cigarettes (although the second one isn't the healthiest). I also find that listening to that special kind of music can help. You know, whatever kind it is that touches your soul.

ya, now we should all have a slumber party! Paint each other's toe nails! LOL Great suggestions, all around! I'm feeling warm and cozy already

Slumber party.