[LittleForgetMeNot]

I had an argument with a friend a little while ago. It started off with a little bit of opening up, and then they stated their opinion, dissed therapy and the people who took it (which I found to be very insensitive to my mood and ignorant in general) and I completely blew up. I was so mad, I was shaking - so mad I was practically in tears. I don't think I had ever been so offended in my entire life! Usually I can respect other people's opinion or disagree calmly and we'll just debate, but this was just like anger over the top and lasted at least for an hour, maybe more.

Lots of the anger type "opening up" happened.. I, trying to prove a point, ended up spilling 98% of my entire past problems to this person. I don't care, I don't regret it, because this particular person cannot do anything to me with this information.. But I do wonder what would of happened if this had been a person who could use that information to hurt me. It's happened before.. and I don't know why I'm not more careful. I really need to get a better handle on my emotions..

Anyways in the end they thought this argument was good just to get us closer but as for me it's done nothing but leave a bad taste in my mouth. I just feel mad, tired, stressed out, and my respect for this person has fallen.

Erg. This is not the way to start off your day!

[Elana05]

(((LittleForgetMeNot))) I'm so sorry to hear what a rough morning you have had. You're right, can't imagine anyone would want to start the day like that.
It's understandable that you got angry. How could this friend need or want to put down the very therapy that you find to be helping you?

Sending many supportive thoughts your way. Be gentle with yourself. You did the right thing for sticking up for your convictions.

E.

[LittleForgetMeNot]

The guy had his own problems.. so I tried to calm down quickly before I triggered anything and hurt feelings. When I finally did I calmly explained if he had said that therapy was not for him instead of stating that therapy was for people who "can't/don't want to help themselves" I wouldn't have gotten so upset. A lot of it too was from this ignorance, this insensitivity, and then to end it all of a sprinkle of hypocrisy.. It was just so.. ergh. He tried to say it was just his opinion, and while he was sorry I got so upset by it, it was me who was letting myself feel that way. That might be so.. but there are ways to state your opinion without offending or hurting other people.. or coming off just plain rude.

The rest of this morning hasn't been so fantastic either. I've been pushed to the side and ignored all afternoon.. Oh what fun.

[ECHOES]

People who don't have the experience of therapy, or who aren't in therapy, ususally just don't "get" therapy.

And someone with his own problems may have felt overwhelmed and felt a need to push you away because of that. He may also be afraid of his own problems and the idea of therapy that he needs.