[clouds_and_sun]

...my T has told me that she notices that I do this to cope with deep hurt.
See I am going to be 40 in a couple of years and I have never been in love or married. And when I get "triggers" like seeing younger couples in love holding hands and glowing, I make up in my mind that I am dating this guy who does not exsist to cope with the hurt. My T said that she notices it is cause I am so lonely. See getting out is very hard for me seeing how I don't drive (phobia of that), I have bad social phobia and I live in an unsafe area, so I can't walk around. I am trying to push myself to find a job.
My father lives in a dream world and now he has completely lost his mind.
Fact: I hate my life and I am trying really hard to change it (by trying to find a job). But right now I try to deal with it by living in a dream world with a wonderful boyfriend.
Reality: I have nothing
My T wants me to break away from this dream world I live in, but it is so hard, a lot harder than I thought.
Thanks for reading this.

[Direction]

It probably will be hard to do and may bring up other emotions that you don't know about as they have been kind of stuffed away when your mind wanders to the dream world. It will be worth it, as you will learn a new way to deal with loneliness. Be patient with yourself...

[slowinmi]

clouds and sun,

Different people escape reality in different ways. Some use drugs and/or alcohol. It sounds as if your way of coping is more healthy for you physically than some of the others options but as Direction says, it is not allowing you to learn to cope with some of the emotions you feel.

I hope you find a job that interests you and a real man instead of a dream.

slow

[Night*Blossum]

I can relate to what you're going through. I have ADHD and so I tend to daydream about things that are not real or even possible for that matter, but sometimes I so get caught up in my daydreams to the point where I think they're real. I also have a bad social anxiety and I don't have many friends, so I tend to be a bit clingy to the ones I have. I really do hope for the best of you though. I'll be praying for you to get past your "dream world" and get into the real one. God bless <3

[survivor15]

I'm sorry, I'm here if you need to talk.

[PureSoul]

Well I can say i am moved by your post, I have similarities.
I guess If you are happy, then that's all that counts, but if you want to change and find a job...then i guess you can do it, as it does take time to get over hurdles of change and differences..I would say by having support from friends and family does help a lot to get you to that goal.
Baby steps i call them, just change one thing daily or weekly, to make your goals seem less stressful and scarey..

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((((( clouds and sun ))))))))))))

[clouds_and_sun]

(((hugs))) to you all thank you for your support.

It takes a creative mind to live in a dream world and it's serving a purpose right now, nothing wrong with that. You must have an artistic side? When you are ready to take a peak out, you will, but only when you are ready. There are no deadlines.

I did the same thing in my teens. Artwork helped get me grounded into reality. I used to get bad migraines then and a doctor got me into artwork to express my emotions and that was the beginning of re-entering the world again. I still escape into a similar dream world, especially when I dissociate but other times I revert to telling myself happy stories to self soothe.

[Abyssal]

Where there is a dream, there is a reality. To live in this life, and to live with its miseries, you sometimes need an escape, and you find that escape in dream. Everyone do daydreaming. its nothing unusual .. But if you do it excessively as much that you are avoiding your real life and living in dream, then its not healthy.

Try to keep yourself busy , your mind busy so that you won't get time to be in dream.. Don't be too hard on yourself. Spare few minutes in your busy life to dream. but not too much.

You dont have a boyfriend? Whats a big deal? I also don't have Life has much to offer than just a boyfriend .. Come on, don't underestimate yourself. Find constructive things to get away with it .. Volunteering would help also.

Hope it helps All the best!

[OurLadysTears]

The benefit of living in a dream world is knowing what you want to make you happy in the real world. Everyone needs a way to escape the world when it gets too overwhelming and that is exactly what you are doing. It's bad if you let it consume your life and you don't take the steps to make your dream a reality. For now though, use it for your benefit so you don't escape to other unhealthy ways of coping. It is good that you can recognize this as a problem, because you know what you need to work on to change.