[MysticTheSheperd]

Ive often asked myself how come I can always feel negative emotions like sadness, crying, lonely, irritable etc so intense like but positive ones like happiness calmness and chearfullness is always so dull like. something that is fun and positive i can say it is but not really feel anything from it example i could say that camping trip was awsome but not feel and excitment about it at all but i could say that was a tragidy about so and so having cancer and be in tears about it. how do you start comming to a balence with it and be able to feel good emotions and not just say it.

[Sunna]

Negative emotions usually link to base level survival fears, fear of death. That one is quite strong, and mind finds these emotions much more entertaining than the pleasant ones. It makes the ego feel quite strong, and it doesn't really care that we are miserable as a sideeffect. Negativity easily becomes the way we know we exist. "I complain, therefore I am" sort of attitude, where it actually gives us a sense of personal power to find something to be unhappy about in just about everything.

It sounds like you are so keyed to negative emotions that you have no way to experience positive ones. Many people conclude at this point that the fault lies in LIFE, that life is unfair, life sucks, people suck even worse, and there is nothing to be done but to just hate everything, and everyone, including self, of course. It's great that you are not satisified with this status quo and seek a way out. That is the most critical step, to want to change this situation.

What helped me was to work on the negativity directly. I have found great help in reprogramming my mind in Byron Katie's inquiry method. Once my belief in the stories that evoked negative emotions was cleared there was room to start enjoying the life.

[MysticTheSheperd]

Thanks for your reply Sunna Ive been seeing how others around me are happy and leading fun productive lives and me really not getting anywhere and have decided I need and want to change how i feel, How i cope. How I intrepit things in life and just want to be a quote normal member of society. Ive been down to that point of thinking life is unfair why even bother why me and I get tired of seeing and hearing myself think like this. The Byron Katies inquiry method is that a book I can read

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by MysticTheSheperd

Ive often asked myself how come I can always feel negative emotions like sadness, crying, lonely, irritable etc so intense like but positive ones like happiness calmness and chearfullness is always so dull like. something that is fun and positive i can say it is but not really feel anything from it example i could say that camping trip was awsome but not feel and excitment about it at all but i could say that was a tragidy about so and so having cancer and be in tears about it. how do you start comming to a balence with it and be able to feel good emotions and not just say it.

I heard somewhere that some people become conditioned to a life of turmoil and sadness and then feel weirded out when they experience something joyful because it is so foreign to them. You might try setting aside the idea that some emotions are 'negative' and instead embrace the idea that all emotions have value in keeping us alive and human, and are appropriate to experience based on the situation, i.e.. crying at something sad and smiling at something happy.