[lokipooh]

The last year and a half has been rough, i separated from my husband and i'm finally over him saw him for who he really was. He finally signed the divorce papers last month but still tries to contact me, i told him i moved on i'm seeing another guy who i adore and we could not be friends anymore. I have not started dating yet the guy i'm seeing is a friend we haven't go to the dating point yet i still have issues. My family 3 boys 3 girls are completely separated and too stuborn to talk to each other and i'm the only one they will all talk too. I need to get them all back together and try to go back to school and try to find a 2nd job. Well i got alot going on and i am so lost i don't know what to do but drink maybe more than i should be anyway.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

(((lokipooh)))

It is a difficult situation to be in when the ex won't let go. I hope he leaves you be, but if
he doesn't then a restraining order may be the answer if you cannot be freinds' at all?

But you're wise in regard to your other friend and it's very wise to work on yourself rather than getting into a relationship too quickly.

If you can get the kids together and get them motivated, that is a wonderful ability and Maybe you're right about getting them together and getting them talking? It sounds right and I think it is the right thing to do, but don't invest too much of yourself in it if you are feeling vulnerable, they do have to take responsibility for themselves too.

Happy New Year! ^j^

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[shezbut]

Hi lokipooh,

I'm sorry to hear about how difficult things have been for you, for the past year and one half.

Getting over divorce does take a long time. Especially when children are involved. (I was a little confused by your post. Do you have 6 grown children, or were you referring to siblings in your family?)

You also mentioned getting a second job and perhaps going back to school. That's a lot of stuff ~ there are only 24 hours in each day & about 1/3 of it should be spent sleeping. Do you have a full-time job now, or part-time? What do you do for a living? You're wanting to go back to school for a degree in ____? Try to pick your worries apart, acknowledging each one. Writing them down would help a lot!

Then put your list in order of importance and ease. For example, you may be needing to make more money at a part time job now, and have some hope for a better future. So, you get a job as an office clerk while going for your BS in Accounting. During, keep your eyes peeled for better-paying office positions that can use more of your experience and/or knowledge. Then when you have that degree, you'll be in a better place to expect higher power. Just an example ~ but, hopefully, you can apply the gist to you in particular.