What are your biggest angry-makers?

ME TOO!!! When someone does not thank me, I go "You're welcome." When they don't say sorry, I go "excuse me!"

Is courtesy out of date?!

thanks,

Billi

I've got one: When I am trying to board the bus and a gentleman shoves past me on the bus, instead of letting me first.

I am not sure why this bothers me because I am liberated.

Also, the whole me-first mentality going on in society.

So many people don't seem to think about others anymore.

And then my blood boils when they DEMAND respect from me.

Billi

I also relate to this.

Billi

I get angry when I am lied to. I am angry when I am miss understood.

The former makes me think of my mom. That's one of her pet peeves. The latter is definitely one of mine.

Something else that makes me angry is people wanting to silence others because their feelings got hurt. We all have the right to say whatever we want, even if it stupid. If I don't like what somebody says, I won't listen.

Feeling Invalidated (I have a long history from parents invalidating my every move. Especially my mother who made my life impossible)

And "bad drivers". LA is full of them. It drives me nuts!

(oh, and of course, my workplace pet peeve post about being given a load of work that needs to be completed "yesterday")

Bullies ...



Then I get angry at myself for standing up to them ... Not because I stood up to them but because I sometimes devolve to their level of insulting behavior which in turns makes me feel like I'm a bad person even though I'm not ... I wonder if they ever fret over their behavior? ... At any rate ... Simply Can't Stand Bullies ...

Bullies suck. Sadly, though, standing up to them is the only way to really deal with them, so don't feel bad about it.

Something that hacks me off...
Women/girls with no sense of humor. They can't take a joke, they can't laugh at anything stupid, etc. They usually have really funny husbands or boyfriends, too, and it's just wasted on them.

There are two sides to this. My husband tells me that his first wife never laughed at anything except the misfortunes of others. For example, she'd sit stone-faced through a stand-up comedy routine but laugh herself silly if she saw somebody trip and fall in a hole. Seems rather sadistic to me, and I certainly don't want to be friends with a person like that. I say this even though I do get anything ranging from a giggle to a "rofl" watching a supermodel take a spill on the runway. This is just my own insecurity. I see myself as "flawed" but them as "perfect," and their splats show me they're not. I laugh because it makes me feel better about myself in comparison.

On the no sense of humor, though, one of MY pet peeves is saying something personal and mean-spirited, and then when the target is offended, coming at them with, "It was just a joke. Don't you have any sense of humor?" (If I hear one more "women belong in the kitchen" joke....) Fat jokes, ethnic stereotypes, and other insult humor would fall into this category. My family tended to make cracks that insinuated I was ugly or stupid, and expected me to laugh. I didn't. IMO this is a *form* of bullying, and as you say, bullies suck. I'm very sensitive to jokes that suggest a parent doesn't love or want his/her kid. When Bill Cosby told Malcolm Jamal Warner on The Cosby Show, "I brought you into this world, and I'll take you out," I was horrified. Where others heard a wisecrack, I heard a threat on a kid's life.

Jokes about body parts and biological functions strike me as a bit juvenile, and the laughs I get from them are limited. It wears thin, very quickly. I find it tiresome that half of the humor on the internet seems to rely on something resembling a private body part. After a while it isn't funny anymore. But it doesn't mean I have *no* sense of humor. What I find funny is simply different from that.

Well, humor is very subjective, that is for sure. I'm just talking about women/girls who think they are too cool to laugh at something. Not about thinly-veiled insults.
I guess I do have kind of a morbid sense of humor, though. I find all kinds of weird stuff funny. Somebody told me I have a jaw like a diamond-drill, and I just about fell off my chair. It's true! I do have a Jay Leno chin. But this guy is a friend, and so I don't worry about it. My sister and I "insult" each other all the time and end up howling about it. My youngest sister doesn't appreciate this brand of humor, so we try not to do it with her.
Like I said, it's totally a subjective thing. I just get mad at people who take themselves too seriously. Bullying and light-hearted ribbing are two different things, though, and I don't disagree with you.

I hate when you're on a positive high and someone throws something negative at you for no good reason

My sister once accidentally insulted me, and I thought it was hysterical. It was a Fourth of July party, family and friends, and after the firework show I sang a chorus of Martina McBride's "Independence Day." Well, my sister does tend to get mentally confused sometimes. Her son wanted to know if the firework show was over, or if there was more coming. My sister answered absent-mindedly, "It's not over till the fat lady sings--oh wait, she did." It's because I know she's such a dizzy ditz (and I say that affectionately) that I found it so funny, even though she'd basically just come right out and called me fat. If she'd meant it, or said it to be cruel, I'd have been hurt.

My oldest brother, on the other hand, was a different story when we were younger. I don't think he'd do it now, but as kids, he used to pick me raw, and the more it hurt, the more he'd keep it up. I remember him being told, numerous times, "When you see that it hurts, stop." But then in the next sentence, I'd be chided too for being "too sensitive," and "not able to take a joke." And my first husband also used to play that game. I agree that ribbing and verbal bullying are two very different things. There is a big jump from accidentally hitting a sore spot, to knowing exactly where the sore spots are and then deliberately kicking them.

I am more annoyed than I am angry.

There's nothing really in particular that gets me angry other than my mom, only because I can't talk to her about something important without her: laughing, insulting me, or pretending that she doesn't care. =/

Oh I know what gets me angry: those stupid online 30-minute questionares you have to take when filling out a job application, then you do all that work and it tells you that your personality isn't quite right. BS.

Grrrr, today is one of those days ...

at the office, extending a courtesy to someone, and then they take it as a license to start asking for the moon & stars (like they are 5-years old and I am their mother)

Or even worse, when someone requests advice, advising them against the action, and then they do it anyway (despite what I told them).

What gets me angry is when I lose my mental grip over this PTSD. When no matter how hard I try, I have a bad day and can't get myself up again. I get angry when that happens because I am really trying hard to NOT have that happen.

Pet peeve; currently my cat, he can't leave me alone, follows me into every room( yes the bathroom too if I let him), sits or leans on me whether I am sitting(trying to walk) or standing-try washing the dishes with a 18lb cat leaning on your leg. Cute for day 1, day 2, not so cute, now into weeks...a pet peeve.

Angry; Bullies, I have been going after them since I was 7(almost 50yrs) in grade school. I cannot stand people who pick on others. I don't care how big, rich or cool they think they are they have no right to put anyone else down or hurt anyone else.

Part Two (continuing)
My colleague and partner in crime during a VERY critical time here at the office took off on vacation for 2 days leaving me with NO information, background, direction.

This is so wrong.

((((Open Eyes)))) I get upset, as well Some days are easier than others but in general I am super hard on myself. Meh. working on it, though!

((((Sidestepper)))) I have a super demanding kitty, too!

biting my tongue..

There is quiet a few the angers me..

1. Fair weather friends - You know... The friends that only come if you have something good or if doing good and then leave you when you have nothing to offer or see you as useless.

2. The past school bully - Everyone had to be made fun of once, some more than others or the rare never been. Anyways the idiot before harassed and made your life a living hell in class. Then years later ( like as of now for me) you see them and they all try to be friendly with you or try to talk to you. Never once saying sorry for the all bull they put you through, simply pushing it aside. What makes them think I want to talk to the person who tortured me years ago. It may have been little, big, or every single day they pestered me..I don't care just don't ever talk to me if you treated me horribly before unless you are going to apologize for it.

3. The Ex BF - What else do I have to say, they are your ex for a reason. Though I'm not sure about everyone else but when I come across an ex they always have this smirk. (Like yeah I went out with that betch and made her life hell in the end). Then there are the ones you offer friendship and they agree but completely ignore you after. Wtf, don't agree in the first place then.

4. People who don't take No for answer - This can be a friend, bf, gf whatever, their is usually always one. In my case with something recent with a guy. The guy who wants to go out with you, you say no, he in turn can't take no for an answer. I even started to crack and and thought that maybe I should go out with him because at impression he was a nice guy. I had to keep reminding myself I can't handle a relationship right now, I'm very unstable when it comes to relationships. I even told this guy that all I want is friendship, but even my best friend said he is very persistent and that was correct. To the point that this guy was pissed at me for making him wait when in the first place I told him to stop waiting, he should have gotten the clue at day one. After months I finally let all nice aside and told him straight up that I don't want anything to do with him and still it took a week for him to register. In the week he just kept asking me so you and me nothing? Then finally I couldn't take it, I cut him off completely and now with my number changed he will never get it. There is more to this story but just..... NO!!!! means NO!!!!! AAAAHHHHHH!!!!! D:<

5. People who talk, talk and talk -
The people who constantly talk while your trying to watch a movie. I don't mind a question or two that even makes myself wonder. Laughing is always tolerable but if your going to talk through out at every sec. of the entire movie, I'm kicking you out.

The people who love hearing themselves talk. They chat away not realizing your never ending silence or willingness to respond. If they do acknowledge it all you have to say is Uhhhh" and they continue once again. I understand a long story that has to be said, I've had plenty of those. But these are the types of people who only want to hear themselves and doesn't give a rats *** about your life. A conversation is between two people which they will never come to realize. In the end they are just conversing with themselves and I turn get a laugh from that.

People who describe every single detail when they tell you what they did. Its okay to certain extent.
But an example of what I hate: The weather was partly cloudy and me and such and such stepped out of my home. Such and such was wearing a shirt and jeans while I wore a poka dotted dress. We walked three blocks to the corner of something place, that's when we might aright turn. We then walked another three blocks where we stopped and saw a brown squirrel. Then we walked a few more blocks and went to MD's for a something to eat I had a cheeseburger while such and such had a Big Mac.

Well not ridiculous as I put it and a lot more detail that I could ever think to put but you can get what I mean. Really unnecessary detail that in the end I don't even know what the story is a about anymore. If I wanted all of that I could just read a book and that's what I feel like I'm listing to a really boring book.

There is a lot more that I can't think of at the moment but that's what I had in my mind right now......

why not sharing? "biting tongue" ??

When someone says there going to do something and in a matter of days, they change their mind for some reason that's unknown!!

Whennnn you are out of a Med and your doc denies your refill because he has not seen you since October but when you call the office to make an appointment they are so busy they can't even answer the phone so i have to leave a voice mail per their own recording in order to make an appointment. WTF?

Or does biting your tongue anger and annoy you?