What are your biggest angry-makers?

I've got a good irker right now. It's when people (primarily family members) play a game with me by ignoring me when I ask nicely for what I need. No matter how many times I do ask nicely, nothing happens until I get mad. Then they're all like, "Calm down. I have all these other things to do, and I couldn't get to it or I didn't hear you until just now. I was just about to do what you asked. You don't have to be so nasty about it. You have such a temper."

Yeah, that's right. Always make me look like the evil one. Never admit you deliberately pushed my buttons.

And that's something I've noticed about people, as relates to me. Even the nicest people, in the best circumstances, wait at least until I've asked twice before they notice me. I can never ask nicely, just once, and get what I need. How do OTHER people get respected?

At school, when we're changing classes and the hallway is packed with people. And your walking behind someone and they just stop walking in front of you and your suck behind them. Omg, that's makes me sooo angry!!! Or when people are horse playing in front of you and you get hit, pushed, or knocked down.

When people nag at me.

When I'm trying to watch my favorite TV show and everyone is being loud. Even if I have to door closed and I can still hear you from outside my door.

When people smack on gum or food.

When kids are being rude and having side conversations when the teacher is trying to teacher. And I cant concentrate because your talking too loud.

When a girl flips her hair and I get smacked in the face with it.

When people make fun of me for being afraid of heights, getting shots and places where there isn't a lot of space. Like an MRI machine. I don't know if anybody has ever been in one of those things..but I can't stand them I freak out. I swear they just don't get it sometimes. And they make fun of me for it. Really.? That's what makes me the most upset.

I hate it when I struggle and struggle, finally acquire something nice to show for it, and no time at all passes before someone wants to borrow it. Never fails. If I say yes, either I don't get it back, or I get it back damaged. If I say no, I'm treated like a selfish child who doesn't want to share his toys. It's not that I'm greedy or materialistic, but dang, am I *never* allowed to have anything nice for myself?

At one time I was a resident in a year-long life skills program run by a homeless shelter. Most residents of the program were recovering from drug, alcohol, or mental health issues. (The rest had those issues, but were not recovering. They were only there for the three-hots-and-a-cot, and not trying to better themselves.) Any time I was seen wearing a particularly beautiful article of clothing, invariably someone would tell me, "Uh-uh, girl. You go upstairs, take off MY dress, and give it back to me. That is MINE." It was a joke, basically shelter speak for, "Hey, I like that dress." But after a while, hearing this every single time I had on something pretty, I started thinking, "Why doesn't anyone want ME to have anything nice?" My daughter, who works with street kids, tells me that the code on the street is, "Hey, we're all in the same boat, so if anybody acquires something of any value, it has to be shared among all of us. You can't keep it for just yourself." If you obtain money, they are entitled to a slice of it. If you have good clothes, they are entitled to borrow it. They are not obligated to return it in a timely manner, in the same condition you loaned it to them. Sometimes they are not obligated to return it at all, because you have more than they do, and everything has to be even. Oh, and when YOU want to borrow something, "Sorry, I'm in therapy working on the ability to say No, and I've got to practice it. So no."

And I guess it's that entitlement that really irks me. For the first four decades of my life I had nothing. Now, what I have, everyone wants to take from me, and I'm getting sick of it.

I don't know whether I'm respected in the matter or not, but I'm very direct when I ask for help. I don't mention that I need help in a general way. Oh no, I call up Joe & say, "Joe, I need a favor."

My friends are all the type who say that if they can ever... But I've learned that specific invitations work best with all of them.

IDK. Works for us, anyway.

My trouble is that I can be very direct and very specific in asking for what I need. "I need X. Would you please X? Thank you." I can ask exactly that way, and keep asking, until I'm blue in the face. Yet X doesn't happen until I get mad and YELL for X to be done. And then I'm treated like a world-class b--- because I lost my temper, and why didn't I just ask nicely?

When my children were teenagers, I was advised that this was because they knew they didn't really have to move until Mom started yelling. But they aren't teenagers anymore, and it isn't just them.

there are so many of these things that I can agree with you on.
Three big ones for me are:
1. Anyone disrespecting my family in any way.
2. People who hate/profile because of type, personality, color, religion, sexual preference or by class - drives me friggin crazy....I see Everyone as equal, Depeche Mode said it best in "People are People"
3. Pedophiles and Child Abusers - even hearing/reading about it sets me off, so I avoid it at all costs because if I found the person I may end up in jail (happily).

Smaller one of mine is how much I edit my posts for spelling lol

^ Oh, Nams, child-abusers are a big one for me, especially the pedos. I feel the exact same way.

^^Even MORE angering is when people laugh at child abuse (especially SA) like it's funny. If I see one more "pedo-bear" joke.... I was SA'd, and it is NOT funny.

Haha guilty as charged

In terms of my biggest angry-makers...are you after, say, a list? lol

Whatever you want.

This is another silly one, but there's something about LMFAO that sets me off. I just have a deep, irrational hatered for them. xD

Oeof my pe peeves is speaking pput not being listened to or put of because "its inconvienent" for the other person to take their time to listen or "its too much for them tho handle" right now" etc etc etc but mind you they have the time to put your name in the middle of a conversation. BIG pet peeve!!

I have a pet peeve (as I've already detailed in other threads) about being told how "young" I am. It's not that I'd rather be old, or that I consider anyone my age to be old, but keep going on and on about how I'm "still young," and what I'm going to hear is, "You're just a child. I don't have to take you seriously or show you any respect yet."

hoarders, can't stand to watch the show let alone the commercials, people that are narcissitic, manipulative, controlling, refuses to get out of the rut their in, long toe nails, people who have BO, people who make fun of others because they are overweight, people who think they are better than others, religion, politics, people that won't admit that they are wrong, people that talk on their cell LOUD, parents that control their children at stores or resturants, and well i think i wrote enough.

American tv competition cooking shows that focus on weird food combinations as entertainment when there is so much starvation in the world. Can't American ingenuity be put to a compassionate use????

Observing the abuse of others,whatever the type it may be.

My own damn self.

Rude People
Mean People
Inconsiderate People

People who mistreat children
People who mistreat old folks
People who mistreat animals

Abusers
Manipulators
Liars

When people dont call or text back in a timely manner
When people dont invite you to things they are telling you about (like going to lunch in 20 mins)
People that dont let other people love or care about them

The biggest angry-maker I'm experiencing right now is:

1. I ask a specific question.
2. The other person answers a related question that I didn't actually ask.
3. I clarify my question.
4. The other person gets frustrated and said they already answered me.

Example:

Me: Do you want chicken or hamburger for supper?
Them: I eat supper at 6:00.
Me: No, I'm asking if you want chicken or hamburger.
Them: I already told you, I eat at 6:00. You just don't like my answer.

Having to police my own opinions and tastes and sense of humor so I don't end up making other people mad. >.> ...In other words, Facebook.

Wow! ... That one really hit home for me ... I have a most difficult time allowing people to get too close to me ...

I do know (unfortunately from enduring 33.5 years of abuse) that the ones who are supposed to love and care about you can do the most damage ...

I often feel badly that I cannot let others get that close to me again ... And I often sing that lyric from the Eagles' Desperado about letting somebody love you before it's too late ...

Yeah ... I ponder, fret and worry about my inability to allow this into my life quite often ...

Sincerely,
BrokenCloud

Being accused or ignored or hated..

-when people feel the need to overly smack and pop gum loudly
-people who rake silverware across thier teeth while eating (i cringe)

People who will talk crap about you behind your back then 2 seconds later smile in your face and talk crap about someone else...grrrrrrrrr

why do you have to talk on your damn phone while sitting with people....rah blah rah...walk away!

NO! I will not sleep with you when you have a girlfriend!

USE YOUR FREAKING TURN SIGNAL BEFORE YOU TURN NOT WHILE YOU ARE FREAKING TURNING!

Don't pass me like I am going to slow for you then go slower then I was going!

Why are you swerving when you are going under the speed limit and you are not drunk????? Get OFF the road!

Why isn't any of that stuff tied down in the back of your pickup truck?!?

Don't ask me why I look at you sideways when nothing but obnoxius crap comes spewing out your mouth all the time.

I don't care how big your muscles are that does not make you king ****!

Why do people hang out right in front of a door????

People who laugh at other peoples short comings

don't look down at me just cause im shorter than you.. lol

i could go on and on