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Old Mar 20, 2012, 05:17 PM
lucyermm93 lucyermm93 is offline
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It's my first year at university, which means me living 200 miles away from my home. My family is great and I've lived in my home town my entire life, and I'm homesick most of the time. Before I just kept myself busy with university work, my part time job and going out, but last month my grandfather died.

I returned to university last week, but since then I've not been motivated to do anything. I sleep for hours and hours and barely have the energy to leave the house. I'm irritable and cry none stop. I've always had self esteem issues and coping with emotions, but I felt like I was making progress. Now I feel like I'm worse than ever.

The only person who I trust enough to talk to is my mum, but when we're apart I know she worries about me and I don't want to give her any extra stress. I'm not the type of person who talks about their feelings, I get really embarrassed and find it hard to articulate how I feel, other than overwhelmed.

When my university deadlines come I can't be this under motivated or I won't be able to continue next year, and my grandfather wouldn't want me to give up on my university dream because i can't cope.

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Old Mar 20, 2012, 09:35 PM
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It sounds to me like you're having trouble with grief. You were doing ok before your grandfather died, and now you're struggling.

I'd suggest talking to a grief counselor. They're great about helping you get thru the grieving process. There are 5 stages of grief: Shock, Anger, Depression, Bargaining, and Acceptance. Most of us go thru all these stages, although when my husband died, I seemed to have skipped the "bargaining" phase.

You can get ahold of a grief counselor thru your local Hospice. They'll be happy to talk to you. There MIGHT be a fee involved, but I don't know for sure. Call and talk to them. I wish you the very best. Please let us know how things go. God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee
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Old Mar 20, 2012, 10:42 PM
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I agree with Leed, I think that you need time to grieve.

But also I just want you to know that it is very common for first year college students to get home sick.

When I went to my daughters college orientation, for parents only, the one thing they made clear to all parents is that often student DO get homesick and to not let them come home as they do overcome this.

So, just to let you know this IS NORMAL. But in your case, I think you were doing a great job, just that the loss of your grandfather made it much more difficult.

Do not be hard on yourself, you are grieving and adjusting.

((((Hugs))))
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