[musicflows]

Honestly, what does society have against someone crying? Why is it every time someone cries in public, there's always some kindly person trying to make them stop? Crying is a basic human right, but I can't do it in public for fear of attracting attention and making people uncomfortable. Thus, I'm forced to store up my feelings until I get a chance to escape to a private place and let it all pour out. It often takes hours and I have to awaken those feelings by either reciting depressing thoughts out loud or expressing verbally to imaginary apparitions or listening to a sad song. This may sound emo, but afterward, I feel sooooo relieved like I can go on with my life. Crying is very therapeutic, so why is it shunned as something negative? Why isn't it accepted?

[Leed]

Don't judge people too harshly. Those "kindly people" are the ones who CARE. They are concerned about you and just want to help. They're afraid something horrible may have happened, and they don't want to leave you alone. Wouldn't YOU do the same thing? What if YOU saw some poor soul sitting alone and crying their heart out --- would YOU just let them sit and cry? I sure wouldn't -- I'd try to see if there was something I could do to help them.

I sure hope our world never comes to the point where it's so 'cold' that no one cares anymore. It's bad enough as it is -- when people hear the screams of someone being murdered, yet no one does a thing about it -- they don't want to get involved! Good grief.

So again -- don't judge them too harsly. God bless. Hugs, Lee

[Perna]

Crying isn't wrong, it is just is an indicator of sadness and who wants to see another person sad? Like Leed says, some people don't want to see someone else unhappy and others are too reminded of their own unhappiness and public crying can be a trigger to them. Many people feel helpless watching someone cry and helplessness can be a very unpleasant feeling (worse than sadness to me).

People feeling helpless might want to leave to get away from that trigger or, if they are not very attuned to their feelings and what/why they are feeling them they may try to make you leave instead as if you are responsible for their helpless feelings instead of their own psychology.

[dailyhealing]

Thanks so much for sharing this! I'm glad you have found PC! I have two thoughts about the crying in public thing. First, I agree that crying in public makes other people uncomfortable and that they often don't know what to do or say. Second, I think I get you when you say that they try to stop the crying being a problem for you. When I am crying, I don't want to be told to stop. I want to be told it is ok to cry, and to be encouraged to let it out. I think crying is an intimate thing, and doing it around strangers would be odd to me. Most often when I cry it is alone, though when I am able to let it happen around other people I trust I am grateful. I'm a guy also, which adds a whole new dimension to the crying thing...

Finally, I agree that crying is therapeutic! I learned as a child to repress my crying and those feelings. I see the ability to do it, cry, as a gift. It doesn't happen all the time, but when it does I feel grateful. For me, crying can be very healing.

Thanks for sharing this, I hope you will keep posting on here!