[aiv713]

My family is so screwed up and my main abusers. My grandmother died last year next month. She left me a car. Ever since I was a little girl she told me that she was leaving me her car, whatever car it was at the time, and it was in her will. I lived with her the summer before she died and took care of her. While taking care of her I drove her around in the car. We had a wonderful summer. I had to go back home and she moved in with her daughter, my aunt. I still had a good relationship with my grandmother, even though I couldn't go see her. Wasn't allowed at first then moved too far away.

When my grandmother passed away, it was on a Tuesday and the funeral was the next day. There was no way I could have made it to the funeral, and I wish I could have. I called my aunt several months ago when our car died to make sure everything was good to go. She said yes, but your grandmother didn't want you to have the car. I asked why and if so why wasn't the will changed? She couldn't give a reason as to why. But said the will wasn't changed because my grandmother died suddenly. BS!! My grandmother had been sick and dieing for months I knew this and wasn't even there. She was under the impression I wasn't talking to my grandmother, but I was. She also threw it in my face that I didn't come to the funeral.

I haven't had a car in several months and thought everything was worked out so I could just go pick up the car and get tags and bring it home. Well come to find out they never opened the estate. My grandmother's attorney had an appointment with my Aunt and mother this weekend but they didn't show up or call offering a reason why they didn't show.

So the attorney told me to call the estates division and they told me what all to do and this could take up to another year. I'm so mad at my family for the way they treat me and the way they treated her. This upsets me so bad and has ruined my day. I hate dealing with this family, but really have no other choice until the estate is settled.

I get so upset. All the past abuse comes back all the feelings of not ever being good enough.....

Thanks for listening

[Leed]

If it is in the WILL, then the car is yours -- unless they're FIGHTING the will. You may have to get an attorney to get the car, and trouble is, the cost of an attorney would be more than the car is worth, probably.

I don't understand why families act this way. Your poor Grandmother would turn over in her grave. This is NOT the way she intended on this to happen. She wrote that will for a reason! Families can be SO selfish. It just amazes me how they can turn into crazed maniacs when it comes to estates.

Sweetie, just consider the source. They are NOT worth making yourself sick over. Don't let them live rent-free in your head! They are selfish, money-hungry leeches. You don't need to associate yourself with people like that, even if they ARE family. Sometimes family can be more toxic than strangers.

You ARE good enough - in fact you're so much BETTER than them it's amazing! Grandma is smiling down at you right now, and glad you're not acting like them. Sure, you didn't get the car, but your DIGNITY is intact. Take care of yourself hon, and God bless. Hugs, Lee

[designer]

Originally Posted by aiv713

My family is so screwed up and my main abusers. My grandmother died last year next month. She left me a car. Ever since I was a little girl she told me that she was leaving me her car, whatever car it was at the time, and it was in her will. I lived with her the summer before she died and took care of her. While taking care of her I drove her around in the car. We had a wonderful summer. I had to go back home and she moved in with her daughter, my aunt. I still had a good relationship with my grandmother, even though I couldn't go see her. Wasn't allowed at first then moved too far away.

When my grandmother passed away, it was on a Tuesday and the funeral was the next day. There was no way I could have made it to the funeral, and I wish I could have. I called my aunt several months ago when our car died to make sure everything was good to go. She said yes, but your grandmother didn't want you to have the car. I asked why and if so why wasn't the will changed? She couldn't give a reason as to why. But said the will wasn't changed because my grandmother died suddenly. BS!! My grandmother had been sick and dieing for months I knew this and wasn't even there. She was under the impression I wasn't talking to my grandmother, but I was. She also threw it in my face that I didn't come to the funeral.

I haven't had a car in several months and thought everything was worked out so I could just go pick up the car and get tags and bring it home. Well come to find out they never opened the estate. My grandmother's attorney had an appointment with my Aunt and mother this weekend but they didn't show up or call offering a reason why they didn't show.

So the attorney told me to call the estates division and they told me what all to do and this could take up to another year. I'm so mad at my family for the way they treat me and the way they treated her. This upsets me so bad and has ruined my day. I hate dealing with this family, but really have no other choice until the estate is settled.

I get so upset. All the past abuse comes back all the feelings of not ever being good enough.....

Thanks for listening

yea I agree, sometimes LIFE just sucks but to stay mad at something you have no contol over will just mess you up and do nothing to them - matter of fact - they will probably enjoy seeing you get so upset. I would go the legal way - don't go thru family at all.
You will get the car and anything else that your grandmother left for you - just rely on that
you r special - your grandma thought so
go throw some dishes and let them break and get off some anger cause all it will do is mess up your stomach and such

someone who cares,

[aiv713]

Thanks!! I'm not dealing with the family at all anymore. I tried that route and it blew up in my face. A few weeks ago I sent my mother a cease and desist order as she was harassing me at home and work. I work in a federal building and she was using the work phone to harass me. Anyhow, hopefully the estate division will be able to help. They said since I have an unsigned copy of the will that I can send that and a letter stating that they told me they weren't going to open the estate and the Estates division will make them.

Lee you're right the car isn't worth the money to get an attorney and fight the will and it's not worth the heartache either.

I think the reason they are mad is because my aunt has two daughters (3 grandchildren total including me) and I was the only one mentioned in the will. Mind you my aunt got everything which is fine with me.

Designer, You are right it's not worth getting myself upset and making myself sick over. It's just hard sometimes.

I've got to get some throwing dishes, lol.