I am trying my hardest to cope but it is all getting too much

Child psychiatrist is certain that my daughter has autism so she is being seen by a psychologist next month to confirm it, At first I had my doubts that she has this until I read about it, My daughters fits most of criteria of it and tbh I had no knowledge of it whatsover until I did read about it.

She started her new school just last week and already she is having problems, Hopefully it will get sorted tomorrow so the teacher has told me.

I try and act brave in front of her but when she isn't around I brake down, She is very sensitive and gets so upset easy, I don't want her to see me upset as she will worry about me, I try to help her but I feel useless.

[SoupDragon]

Hey Tinkerbell, I am sorry you are having a tough time right now. What a fantastic mum you sound.

I think schools are really well geared up to give the right support to children these days, especially those who may need additional support - so I guess once your daughter has had the assessments, she will be able to get that support in place.

I cry in front of my kids sometimes - I spoke with my T about it and his view is that it is not a terrible thing to do and that it is iimportant for kids to see adults express emotions and then see them "recover" again. I tell my kids when they cry, that it is fine and that God wouldn't have given us tears if they weren't meant to come out from time to time.

My youngest is in the process of being assessed as he is "unusual", I know how hard it can be for a mum, just wanting the very best for them and being ill equipped to deal with something where there may be special needs.

Don't forget to take great care of you, hugs - Soup

[Miss Laura]

Hey Tink,

I am sorry your Daughter isn't having the greatest of times at school. I am sure it will all level out soon. Is there any support groups etc you and your Daughter can go along to, to help ease you both into the diagnosis?

[Leed]

Hi dear Tinkerbell ~ I hope you're getting more than one opinion on this about your daughter. It seems that doctors are ALL TOO OFTEN diagnosing children with Autism nowadays. They're slapping this condition on kids more and more lately, and I just think they do it when they don't know what really IS wrong with the child. Perhaps NOTHING is wrong with the child -- perhaps the child is just plain quiet and different! I'd get another opinion before I deemed her definitely Autistic.

And don't hesitate to cry in front of your children. Like SoupDragon said, if God didn't want us to cry, He wouldnt have given us the ability. There's nothing wrong with it. Parent's get sad sometimes too - we just don't want to scare the children.

God bless and keep us posted, ok? Hugs, Lee

[kindachaotic]

Dear Tink, I know it's overwhelming, been there.
Biggest thing I learned was my son just wanted me as mom.
He knew I'd go to school & keep things sorted.
She loves you for you, & that is far from useless.

(((gentle hugs))) my sweet friend.

[notz]

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