[watevs]

recently my mood changed to be worse, i no longer can hide my anger and i start yelling n fighting for silly reasons, i am treating my sister horribly and i can see that she is starting to hate me and refuses to talk to me. not just my sisters but even my friends started criticizing me too much. help!!

[sjdk]

i feel your pain.....i pretend that every thing is fine when im sober...then i drink and a whole different side comes out...i hate it so much. Give yourself a break...at least you recognise there is a problem and want to change....first step be happy about that

[watevs]

the first step probably should be forgiving myself but it doesn't seem that i am willing to do that

[Hellion]

I am in a similar boat...I mean some of the things I've gotten pissed about and had it escalate into basically an adult throwing a fit are so embarrassing I don't even want to say it here.

I mean then I feel people should have every reason to hate me for it, but people who care assure me they don't hate me even if I do have my flaws, and everyone has conflicts and disagreements with each other or can get fed up with certain traits of people at some points. I guess conflict sort of scares me because I never really learned any healthy coping skills of how to have a civil disagreement or without yelling and such.

[watevs]

they say discussing the problem together is helpful and lead to solving it, but as i saw it is not, yes we spent a month getting along but then problems started getting bigger and everything returned to be the same and even worse.

[metamorphosis12]

I really am not saying this in jest. Consider getting yourself a punching bag. Besides that, exercise will relieve a lot of tension. especially if it's a good bike ride, jog etc. The release of energy, endorphin's and better health and sleep. Plus it is something you get instant results from, the runners high and just feeling better to be out.
Other practices that a lot of people do but drives me mad is meditation. I think that would make me worse. But it's great for some. Another thing you can do and this may sound really cheesy. Sit down and make a gratitude list. It really does help put things into perspective and realize how much we so easily take for granted. I can sit down and say I have my house, a roof over my head. i have food I am not hungry. i have a mother and sister that love me and are supportive. I have my freedom. I can walk outside and go where I want. I have my dog and cat. I have a few close friends. I have my bike, which is crucial because I'm a bike messenger.

I mean I can go on and on but you know what I'm saying. also try to figure out where the anger is coming from. It's obviously coming from inside you but why? Can you pinpoint it? Talk to a close friend if you can. Keep busy with your passions and hobbies. And sometimes it's just good to just hang with the family. Even if you are not in the best of moods. just plop down on the couch and chill. watch the parade and crazy holidays pass by.
Last thing, if to see a psychologist or mental health worker, just tell them how you feel. That's why they get paid to help.