[yeliab12]

I have the biggest trust issues. I'm unhappy because I let my thoughts get the best of me. I'm in a relationship and it's not going well because of me. I really don't want this to ruin my relationship. I know I need to go to therapy, but I can't afford it. I'm stuck. I don't even know what to do anymore. I feel so helpless. Is there anything I can do in the meantime to get me by, and not ruin my relationship?

Thank you,

Bailey

[Leed]

Hi dear Bailey ~ What are your thoughts saying to you? Is it making any sense? Are your thoughts telling you "bad things" about your bf? If they are, you just have to realize that you have no proof of anything -- that those are just thoughts -- they aren't reality. It's just our mind playing tricks on us.

What we THINK doesn't make it true. If these thoughts are making you jealous, remember that jealousy wrecks many relationships. And you STILL have no proof of anything. Without proof, your bf is innocent. So until you HAVE proof, your bf IS INNOCENT and treat him that way.

Distract yourself with other thoughts. Anytime those thoughts come into your head, change your thinking. You can do that. Just think of anything else, and keep doing that. Eventually these thoughts will stop. Hugs, Lee

[Thunder Bow]

Any relationship is a 2 way street. Thus you are only half responsible. What is his reactions to your thoughts? Is he being mature about this?

[yeliab12]

Leed, you're right. He is innocent because he has not given me any reason whatsoever to not to trust him. There are just certain things that rub me the wrong way when we're talking through text. I know I need to change the way I think! It's so difficult d:

I'm definitely feeling a lot better than the other day. This feeling comes in waves... Once day I'll be extremely happy and everything is good and 3 days down the road I'll feel so insecure. It definitely has a lot to do with my perspective on things. I just need to adjust that to get things to work [: