[lexie2010]

I hope this is the right place to post this, if not I do apologize. Lately my emotions have been running wild. Within a days time I have so many emotional feelings I start to feel really down on myself because I don't know exactly how I'm supposed to feel. One minute I want to be social and spend lots of time with my bestie and family and the next minute I only want to spend time with my bestie and then all of a sudden I don't want to spend time or be around anyone including myself. This probably makes no sense at all but I don't know exactly how to make anyone understand what I'm trying to say. Anyone have any advice or do I just need to quit whinning? Thanks.

[optimize990h]

You should post in the anxiety panic attack forums that under the mental health support for more responses to your concerns.

From what I understand, there is anxiety involved that stresses you out. A therapist could help you straighten how to effectively deal with-your emotions drastically changing with resulting effects.

I would suggest calming distractions that help you focus on, at first simple games or music.
But you do need a doc to investigate your present situation.

[yellowted]

no need to quit whinning because you are not. your feelings are very real to you and you have every right to ask for advice.
personally i think a number of things could be the cause of how you are at the moment

1. it could be that you are over worked, over stressed or over tired which is making you want to be alone

2. anxiety could be the cause

3. depression could be too

as could many other things.

you need to talk to a doc or pdoc to get to the root of why you are this way.

you could try being the organiser of meeting with family or bestie, that way you should feel more in control of the situation

you could set time limits on meetings too especially if you arrange them for immediately before an appointment or something so you have to leave at a certain time.

don't be too hard on yourself, everyone has days when they don't want to be around others, some call them 'duvet days', others call them 'me time' or 'hibernation time' but most simply stay home and potter around or watch TV /play on the computer, but whateveryou do the result is the same ...time alone recharging your batteries

[ECHOES]

Originally Posted by lexie2010

I hope this is the right place to post this, if not I do apologize. Lately my emotions have been running wild. Within a days time I have so many emotional feelings I start to feel really down on myself because I don't know exactly how I'm supposed to feel. One minute I want to be social and spend lots of time with my bestie and family and the next minute I only want to spend time with my bestie and then all of a sudden I don't want to spend time or be around anyone including myself. This probably makes no sense at all but I don't know exactly how to make anyone understand what I'm trying to say. Anyone have any advice or do I just need to quit whinning? Thanks.

You are very insightful about how you feel ! That's great. You've provided a clue here, and that is that "all of a sudden" you don't want to spend time or be around anyone. Something happens right at that "all of a sudden" place that makes you want to retreat. Some fear, about expectations or intimacy or something. So you protectively retreat because you are making yourself safe.

You aren't whining at all It makes perfect sense what you are saying. Do you have a therapist to help you with this?

[lexie2010]

Originally Posted by ECHOES

You are very insightful about how you feel ! That's great. You've provided a clue here, and that is that "all of a sudden" you don't want to spend time or be around anyone. Something happens right at that "all of a sudden" place that makes you want to retreat. Some fear, about expectations or intimacy or something. So you protectively retreat because you are making yourself safe.

You aren't whining at all It makes perfect sense what you are saying. Do you have a therapist to help you with this?

I have a counselor. She says I am currently experiencing fight or flight and I have chosen flight. Certain situations I am currently experiencing in my life are causing me to want to run away from everything. That's as far as we have gotten in our sessions. Now I have to wait for my next session to find out a way to handle it. I have, in the past, been diagnosed with BPD and I have other issues I battle with when feeling the way I feel. I know this would probably be better suited for the BPD forum I just wanted to answer your question. I hate being ignored and I try not to do to others what I hate done to me. Thank you for your comments.

[avlady]

I get those feelings too sometimes I just need time alone, although i am alone alot already. I rarely like to party, as I can't on my meds. I feel alone when we are at family gatherings as the adults are having a drink or two. Then sometimes I all the sudden wish there were a gathering of people around me. The reason I don't go out much is because of TBI traumatic brain Injury and schitzophrenic, depressed. To tell the truth i don't know why I'm having a great day today as i rarely have good days, well live and let live -i did recieve Holy Communion which lifts my spirits too, I have a Eucharistic Minister come to my home.

[ECHOES]

Originally Posted by lexie2010

I have a counselor. She says I am currently experiencing fight or flight and I have chosen flight. Certain situations I am currently experiencing in my life are causing me to want to run away from everything. That's as far as we have gotten in our sessions. Now I have to wait for my next session to find out a way to handle it. I have, in the past, been diagnosed with BPD and I have other issues I battle with when feeling the way I feel. I know this would probably be better suited for the BPD forum I just wanted to answer your question. I hate being ignored and I try not to do to others what I hate done to me. Thank you for your comments.

I'm glad you have a counselor.

Something happens in your inner world, your mind, that causes you the fear. Fear is what triggers the flight of fight response. It doesn't matter which response is chosen. What matters is identifying the thoughts (self judgements, self criticisms, expectations, fear of disappointing, fear of embarrassment, fear of failure, fear of success, etc) that trigger the fear(s) that begin this process. Once you identify those and work on those, the anxiety/fear is much less, so the response is less dramatic. When worked on over time, the response disappears.