remembering the past; hate it.

why am i getting flashbacks man? now that we're at it, i want to talk about how my sixth grade math/science teacher pulled me over when i was misbehaving. can you imagine she actually did that? she was not as bad as my other teacher but i hated her guts. she was at least sympathetic, unlike teh other guy. yeah that's right, guys aren't sympathetic. they're a bunch of selfish beasts.
when am i going to be through with this?

Why bother with the past? I know sometimes it jumps up and bites us, but it's over and done with. We have to learn to put it to rest and bury it. Sometimes that takes help -- therapy.

Have you thought about going into therapy? It sounds like you could use it. I've been thru therapy cause I didn't know how to deal with my past -- which included emotional abuse, neglect and lots of 'nice' things. So I opted for therapy, and it was the best gift I could have given myself. I've learned how to put my past away and forget it. I don't have to deal with it anymore.

Sound good? You can do that too with some help. Ask your doc for a referral to a good therapist. You won't regret it. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee

thanks lee.
i am already starting to go back to therapy which is available at my school. hopefully this therapist does not make the same mistake as that other one.

like people would often say things like burying the hatchet.

lee, i have been to therapy once and now i'm going back. last time it was at a clinic, and i was referred to this therapist who seemed a little uncaring and detached. seemed like she was detaining me or something cuhs tehn she did not have that many clients and she got mad one time when i couldn't make it or when she came to our house and she couldn't find a parking spot.

I hope you get one this time that you can "click" with -- someone you can relate to. It's really important to be able to REALLY relate to. Otherwise, it's not easy to open up to him/her and tell them our 'secrets.' I remember one psychiatrist I had who just sat there and grunted. He never said much, he just grunted. I didn't stay with him very long. Not only that, but before my first visit, he called me at home and wanted to know how I was going to PAY for it!! What a jerk.

Then there was the therapist who sexually molested me. I ran from him FAST!!

My shrink in the mental hospital was great, and I saw her for a year. Then she retired.

The one I loved was a pschologist - I could tell her anything. She was just awesome, and showed me how to get my power back. Without her, I wouldn't be as healthy mentally as I am now. I owe her almost everything.

So it is important that you can relate to your therapist. Otherwise it just doesn't work. Hugs, Lee

yeah it's true. i can't believe that that therapist actually raped you. how awful! were you quite young then?

thanks all for the kind and loving advice you've given me. your words are as sweet as honey.

Hmmmm -- not quite THAT sweet. LOL And the therapist didn't rape me, he just molested me. "touchy, feely" kinda stuff before I could get away from him. The jerk grabbed me!!! Man, he was sicker than I was!!!

Anyway -- will you let me know how your first therapy session goes and how you like your therapist? I'd really like to know.

Obsessing about the past is interfering in your life. I hope you will choose to get some help with this.

It might be happening right now as a defense mechanism, to help you avoid something unrelated to your past that you are not wanting to think about.

I hope you get a good T, mine is amazing she's practically brought me back from the dead!!! It took several years for me to get her, but in the end I have to say it is worth it!