[kala83]

I just found out today that my girlfriend of six months got diagonsed with cancer yesterday at the docotor's I am not sure how to deal with the news.

I was stunned like she was, both me and her husband are trying hard to be there for her and be supporitive. I am I want to try to read up on the subject lol seems lame but its what I do when I don't know just what all to do.

I was scared today she was upset and might try hurting herself she has cut her self before in the past. And i just have nto known her for long enough to know how she would be handeling all this but she is taking it well I don't know much about the details of things just yet.

but hopefully will in the future.

All I have wanted to do is tell her how much I care and love her and how much she means to me. I wish I could hold her in my arms.

its all very horryifying to say the least for all of us.

[Leed]

I'm so sorry this is happening. The word "cancer" scares the daylights out of everyone.

When I was told I had breast cancer, I too got scared. But alot depends on what "stage" you're in. If you're not in the higher stages of it, your chances are very good!!!

I was in a very low stage of cancer, so I had surgery and radiation -- that was amost 5 years ago, and I'm FINE. There are no signs of any cancer now. I was very fortunate that it was caught early!!

And alot depends on WHERE the cancer is. For instance if it's in the pancreas, that's pretty darn hard to treat. But many have had great results and are fine today, after treatment.

She WILL need your support. So just tell her that you will be with her, and that if she needs to talk you'll be there. Tell her she can lean on you any time of the day or night. Just make sure she knows that you're her friend -- and that friends are THERE ALL THE TIME!!!

Best of luck, and she's lucky to have someone like you . Thanks Kala for being such a good friend. God bless and let us know how your friend comes out, ok? Hugs, Lee

[kala83]

I think harder still she is not just my friend but somone I have fallen deeply in love with, we are not just lovers we truly are two people that so happen to to be the same sex that are madly in love with each other.

and of course being in that position its hard to hear her say what she did last night, the fear of losing a friend and a partner is horrifying but I am going to be as stong as I can and be there for her as much as possible. right now.

she did tell me what type of cancer it is endometriosis...

I am going to start reading up on that todya today sense I am competly un sure of what it means. But at least its an answer

[Leed]

Endometriosis isn't cancer. It's a condition but it's not cancer.

So I'm confused. It's a condition in the uterus in which tissue from the lining of the uterus implants outside the uterus on the pelvic structures, usually In the ovaries. It can cause severe pain duriing periods & sex. Treatment is usually determined by age. But it is NOT CANCER.

So I hope I've helped. I dont know where she got the idea it was cancer. Unless there's something else I don't know. Take care. Hugs, Lee

[kala83]

from what I can piece together right now I think she has had the endometriosis for a while now, when she went in yesterday her doctor's saw signs that she might have uterian cancer and wanted to take samples of it to see.

she kind of freaked out from it all since she was all by herself and she is not entirely out of the woods with the testing either, but for the most part thats what seems like is going to the best of my knoewledge right now.

to be fair I can't say I blame her I have HPV myself and its constant worry of mine that I could easily become a canidate for having cancer in my life as well.

[kala83]

it seems like the chances of it be cancerous are fairly large... and my best friend is fighting with me right now *deep breath*