[Fleury29]

it seems like the littlest things make me angry, wether it be having to get up early or the ten million things that go wrong every day, my question is why is anger my first response? is it a condition or is there something i can do to how i react to things?

[Miswimmy1]

anger is a secondary emotion... meaning that there is another feeling that is underlying. i would look closely at the situations, and maybe chart what happens. then when you aren't so angry, examine it and see if you can spot the primary emotions- frustration? guilt? hurt? and then go about seeing what you can do to change your reaction. behavior modification takes time and practice, but its do able.

[eggsinfinitum]

I cannot speak for you, but for me, and this took a while to figure out, it is a mixture of self-esteem issues and how I didn't ever confront people for how they treated me badly; and so I was angry at others for good reasons but never presented it in a way that led to fixing it, or closure, or self-protection; and the anger built up, and I was mostly angry at myself but didn't know it. And I had kind of automatic way of pushing all of that deep inside where it hid there and fermented, so that's why I seemed angry at everything.

Anyway, hope this makes sense. We are complicated, us humans, and it takes quite the digging expedition to figure us out sometimes. But I did it myself with tons of introspection and patience. And i read a lot of books, and I journal too. Take care and Hugs!

[InfiniteSadness]

I have this too. Im not sure about all the time but the littlest things like you said set me off.. i also have bad agitation/agitated easily.. also- some doctors i have seen prescribed medication

[Fleury29]

Originally Posted by eggsinfinitum

I cannot speak for you, but for me, and this took a while to figure out, it is a mixture of self-esteem issues and how I didn't ever confront people for how they treated me badly; and so I was angry at others for good reasons but never presented it in a way that led to fixing it, or closure, or self-protection; and the anger built up, and I was mostly angry at myself but didn't know it. And I had kind of automatic way of pushing all of that deep inside where it hid there and fermented, so that's why I seemed angry at everything.

Anyway, hope this makes sense. We are complicated, us humans, and it takes quite the digging expedition to figure us out sometimes. But I did it myself with tons of introspection and patience. And i read a lot of books, and I journal too. Take care and Hugs!

Thank you, this does make sense a bit. I just wish I could figure out how to deal with it productively.

[Thunder Bow]

Don't over anyalise Your feelings. Anger is just a feeling, often resulting from frustration. I get angry at Windows 8 because it is frustrating to use, and is full of bugs. Look at what is frustrating in your life, do you feel stuck? Someone bullying you?

[Jannaku]

Can totally relate to how you are feeling and the anger reactions. It all has to do with all the other feelings that you are not identifying that lead up to the anger outbursts. I'm guilty of the same thing. Seems like I learnt from a young age to suppress all the bad feelings like humiliation, sadness, hurt, self doubt, etc instead of acknowledging them and dealing with them. When they present as anger it's confusing because you can't understand why sometimes small triggers make you fly off the handle. I understand it now and now I have a long road ahead of me to try and be more conscious about my feelings at the time I feel them rather than disregarding them and having them all fuse together as anger. I have printed off a list of emotions to refer to since there so many and often it's hard to find the word for the feeling. Good luck and don't worry your not alone.