just little senstitive

my daughter and I were talking and she talking about her future, Im very proud of her of course, she just said I don't want to be like u mom and be h ome all day and do nothing. I was so hurt. I have a bachelors degree, I worked all my life, I stayed home to raise my kids but I didn't plan on Bipolar taking over my life. I didn't plan on spending the last 3 yrs on the couch, because of her lousy dad , divorce, custody battle, and every battle every week he wants to fight. I never wanted to be on disability, THIS ISNT THE LIFE I WANTED!!!!!! I Guess I never really looked into the future and gave it much thought, I doing good on my meds, and I can volunteer, it just hit me the wrong way

(((((((sprik)))))))))))))))))))))))))) ))))))))))))) Im sure she didn't mean to hurt you.
Kids say things sometimes with out thinking.
It sounds like you have worked very hard to make it threw life.
Your daughter I think prolly means she just wants to work and not be a stay at home mom.
Im sorry your hurting.

I'm so very sorry. But children (and adults, for that matter) often have trouble understanding mental illness. She may understand in time. And if she never understands...you still did your best by her.
You might take some backhanded comfort in the idea that your illness is not how your daughter sees you or thinks of you.

Bless your heart. That WOULD hurt. Kids -- you can't hit them and you can't kill them. LOL (just kidding) I'm sure she didn't realize what she was saying. You didn't say how old she is. If she's a teenager, that's about par for the course. They can say some pretty insensitive things.

You HAVE accomplished ALOT in your life, considering you had a crud of a husband!!! You did it all yourself!!! Sounds like you had NO help at all, and that makes it even more incredible! You should be very proud of yourself, my friend.

And now dealing with BiPolar, I'm sure it's difficult for you. I'm physically disabled, and this isn't the life I had planned either. I can barely walk around the house, without having to stop and rest. And usually I can't even do that!! NUTS. So I understand, and I'm sure it did hurt you, my friend.

But please don't hold it against your daughter. She's just a young person who wasn't thinking at the time. If she says something insensitive again, TELL her. She NEEDS to be told when she does this, as if she says this to people "out in the world" they'll think she's a real dope!!! So she needs some instructing on this kind of thing. Take care my friend, and God bless. Hugs, Lee

thanks everyone, your words mean everthing