Crying

How does one stop the overwhelming urge to cry all the time? I'm so tired of crying. It's constant. I always feel something like a knife in my side.

I'm sorry you've been crying so much. Crying can be a good release within reason of course - meaning go have a big cry and let it all out. Next is can you do anything to solve what's making you cry. Do you have a therapist to vent to? Its hard when the tears come at unexpected times. Sometimes depression can be anger turned inwards - not talking about bipolar kinds. Hope it gets better for you soon.

There's nothing I can really change because I'm not sure what's making me cry.

I don't really vent to my therapist because I don't feel that comfortable with her.

It's really important to find a therapist you are comfortable so they can see how to help you. It took me a bit before I found my current therapist. I'm comfortable enough to speak freely and that's a HUGE help for me. I hope you can find someone to help you do the same!

*HUGZ*

I agree i had a T that all she did was tell me that my feelings were wrong and that they werent important and now i got a T that doesnt put down things and i feel comfortable with and she listens and responds in ways that maybe hard to hear but its helpful and she never tells me that anything i say is wrong or unimportant she says something that helps me let out emotions instead of holding them in.

I don't know if she would put me down but I just don't feel any better when I vent to her.

It sounds like things are so bad for you at the moment that you need help to break the cycle. If you are this down all the time, are you on any medication for depression? If you are on medication, it doesn't seem to be working. Can you see someone about this and either get something prescribed or get a review of what you are on?

It is much much harder to change things through therapy, or even to see what is going on, without a little help to at least break the cycle that happens in a depressed brain: a sort of feedback loop, where emotions are not responding to what actually happens, but to what the brain is telling it, and the brain gets things wrong, because of the loop it is stuck in.

Well, eventually the tears dry up. I dunno if that's normal for everyone, but I went through a period of time when I was crying nonstop and then I suddenly lost nearly all ability to cry. It's very VERY hard for me to actually cry anymore even though I want to.

But you don't need a reason to be sad and you don't need a reason to cry. You should, however, be seeing someone to figure out the root (if any) for your tears and figure out how to help with medications if necessary.