Feeling so low...

Hi...

Not even sure if this is where I should be posting. And I don't know if I should even be posting. I'm just feeling so incredibly low. I have to post though. It's getting close to the holidays and now more than ever its getting harder to deal with not having a girlfriend. I feel so effing pathetic. I just really can't be alone like this for much longer. I just don't know what I'll do. And when I walk downtown in the evenings, I can't help but see all the happy couples holding hands, being affectionate, and having someone to love and to be in love with. And then, there's me...haha..effing alone..no one to share anything with. No one to come home to. I go home and I seriously don't know if I even have enough fluids in me to cry as much as I need to cry from this loneliness. It seriously hurts inside me. But, I promise there's a point to posting..

Here's my real question...how do you cope with this low state, at least enough to muster up enough energy and hope to "put yourself out there"? And it just sucks because I feel like I basically have to compete with these happy, confident guys who aren't in this state. But the thing is, I know that I'd be much happier and more stable once I actually met someone. But it's the putting myself out there that's hard. It's hard for me to sell myself and my qualities when I'm feeling pathetic like this :/ Any words of wisdom on this?

I'm already predisposed to having these low hopeless moments where I seriously can't remember what it feels like to be anything else. And now with the holidays and all the happy couples out there. I'm just feeling really hopeless. I'm sorry...

Thanks for any helpful thoughts or advice.

Sorry to have posted all that here in this section. I can see how annoying that would be anyway. So please just nevermind that one. Thanks.

This is just a personal opinion, but from what I can see, you want someone, correct? And you want to feel confident to get out there and meet people but you feel low. Is there a particular reason as to why you feel low about yourself? is your lowness due to low self confidence and low self-esteem, afraid you won't have someone? If that's the case, then work on those two: self-confidence and self-esteem.

By working on these two, i mean, things like learning to love yourself, practising social skills, working on your smile and posture (or does that only apply to girls?), and respecting your own body by immersing yourself in healthy physical activity, or other hobbies. Focus that negative energy elsewhere. The only way to "get out" is to actually "get out" It'll take time though, it won't work overnight, you have to get used to it and get used to feeling good about yourself first. You will find that you'll have a lot to work on for the time being, but slowly the outcome will be great as you take little steps to achieve some confidence and stop feeling so down and pathetic...

Unless there's another reason for your lowness.? Like a past story or something..?

Forget "selling" yourself and just Be Yourself.

Thanks to everyone who read all that. And also thanks so kindly for thoughtful responses as well. I apologize, but I think I posted in the wrong section. I don't really want to go into detail on the issues here. My apologies. Take care.