I've found myself bursting into tears for no real reason lately so I've been giving some thought to these salty horrors.

I've never really been much of a crier-I learned pretty early on that very few people care and even fewer are worth it- which is why these sudden 'random' emotional events are so disturbing.

Anyways, my thoughts are that tears themselves aren't necessarily a sign of weakness but they do sign post a weakness.

Like, to cry is a healthy emotional out let but by crying you allow other people to see that what ever has made you cry is a weakness. Something to be used against you.

So crying is okay. Letting other people see you cry is dangerous?

[LaborIntensive]

I don't know there is a dividing line here. If you just start crying and your with a friend eating dinner or talking about something good it may look strange. But if your talking about a pain you feel emotionally or otherwise than most normal people will understand your crying. I Cry when I see heart touching movies, hear a certain kind of song and remember certain experiences. Maybe I cry more than some but I have never seen this as a negative but a positive. It means I have more heart and can see pain where many are apathetic.

[winter4me]

Oh boy...
I grew up in a house where crying was a weakness---whoever cried first lost.
It was simply understood, never spoken.
So, I am someone who wishes she could cry more often and normally...
Crying, like laughing, is an appropriate response to sadness...
It can get out of hand...like inappropriate humor/laughter...----try not to be fearful.
(((((((((((((((hug))))))))))))))

[Thunder Bow]

Showing any feelings is risky, but worth it. If you hold feelings in, then sickness is a result. Crying is a normal way of expressing feelings.

[happiedasiy]

Originally Posted by winter4me

Oh boy...
I grew up in a house where crying was a weakness---whoever cried first lost.
It was simply understood, never spoken.
So, I am someone who wishes she could cry more often and normally...
Crying, like laughing, is an appropriate response to sadness...
It can get out of hand...like inappropriate humor/laughter...----try not to be fearful.
(((((((((((((((hug))))))))))))))

I also was not allowed to cry/showing any positive emotion would be taken away so I learned to keep it all in.
Now I when I try to communicate my point emotions come up and can get in the way. I cry when talking to my partner who sees it as weakness but It is not a weakness, I am passionate person working on my emotions and have learned to bring myself back to the moment.
I am still learning to allow the appropriate/ ways /ect...
I can't cry a river for every tear held in the past but I can ask myself why is this emotional response is coming out now?
I think recognizing in the emotional moment helps then I can come back to the discussion with a stable mind.
I also use laughter when talking with someone who understands that if we cry because of all our pains and sorrows we would be crying all the time and thats not living a healthy life. There is a time and season for everything try to enjoy the gamut of possible emotions.

H.