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Old Mar 30, 2014, 09:23 AM
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My physical illness is making me really, really tired these days, I think it's because I had Lyme also although that is taken care of. Problem is it does affect how I cope in general, mentally. When I feel strong I really don't care what people say, when you are fresh and healthy you have a much better mindset and you can think straight.

Someone on here made fun of me and my list of diagnoses. Still I hadn't even put them all in, but I guess this person thought it was overkill and no one has all that.

I am diagnosed with Asperger's and ADD, and a sleep disorder not too uncommon in spectrum people, also I am diagnosed with depression with anxiety, and OCD. I also have SAD and GAD but they don't make separate diagnoses in my chart, they are lumped up. Also I have what is formerly known as GID, but I am not diagnosed and I have never mentioned it to doctors.

I had what I feel the main stuff up on the page, AS, ADD, SAD, circadian sleep disorder and OCD. I don't at all mind being AS/ADD, that is just ME. My depression is treated quite successfully but the SAD remains and this winter has been harsh. The only 2 things are a huge pain in the butt and affect me a lot.

I'm not here to get pity, I thought those slots were to getting to know about people easier. But now I'm told I used them in a braggartly way. It upsets me to be misunderstood. It upsets me to be seen as a liar when I'm usually too truthful. And I'm well aware of how lucky I am, I have at last found pretty good help for my issues. I have a friend who "only" has depression and PTSD but she suffers more than I do. So it's not like anyone collects diagnoses for fun. It's not my fault society sees AS and ADD as 2 things as I see it as one in myself.

Anyway... I usually recover quite fast from hurt but this time I wonder if I can learn something. Not just "bounce back" to my normal functioning.

Maybe there is a lesson in here for me? Maybe I should explore this feeling? I just don't know how. Or maybe my lesson is to learn not to be surprised when people see me as a liar, not the first time it happens in my life.

Sorry for rambling.
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Old Mar 30, 2014, 10:20 AM
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I think learning to see different perspectives helps a lot. I do not know that the person was trying to hurt or make fun of you as much as having their own trouble understanding where you were coming from. Other people's troubles are not ours but it can be hard to learn that when other people are talking about our troubles.

What does having all those diagnoses do for you? Diagnoses are what doctors give for their own purposes so they can try to treat us. They don't really do much for me because they are about symptoms that professionals note and symptoms aren't always useful with mental illness but are all the professionals have. That I have a cough and the doctor tells me I have a cold or bronchitis, the only way I see that that helps me is I feel a little more confident the doctor might have a better idea of what medicine might make me feel a bit better as my body battles the illness.

But as far as telling others, "I have bronchitis" I would not bother much; I'd get to bed and have my loved ones bring me lots to drink and drop by the pharmacy for any medicine and maybe a book or magazine for when I could not sleep anymore. What are you doing with your illnesses, other than worrying about what others are saying about them? Just "having" them is not very interesting?
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Old Mar 30, 2014, 10:35 AM
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What does having all those diagnoses do for you? Diagnoses are what doctors give for their own purposes so they can try to treat us.
They don't really "do" anything. I assume they exist on our pages so we can find people with similar issues, just as writing about our interests can make us find people with similar interests.

I can feel you also question putting them there. It's good to know. I just thought it's what people do, I didn't put a deeper meaning into it. Now I realize such a simple thing means stuff to other people. And that I somehow managed to fail understanding that. And that I did something wrong without knowing or understanding.
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Old Mar 30, 2014, 10:58 AM
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I don't question anything you do; what you do is what you need/want to do to help yourself. I only question why you care what other people think of what you do? If you want to list your issues, do that! But "why" you are doing that, why you are questioning yourself, that is what you can learn from this is what I think. I am not here at PC to find other people with my issues, I am here to work on my issues. You may be just looking for others like you, I don't know. But sounds like you are questioning yourself and I am trying to point out what I see. What I see is not what you see but might be able to help you see things in multiple ways so if you feel you are stuck some place, you might be able to see another way?
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Old Mar 30, 2014, 11:42 AM
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Well, I sort of use people's posts outside the advice they give. It is important for me to understand how other people think.

I already know why I was upset... I get triggered when I am misunderstood. I already know that and why, because I have been in many situations in my life where other people had the "right" to interpret my thoughts and feelings, while I did not have the right to correct them. It's not caring what people think per se.... it is trying to send them the right message.... if I want to be understood, I need to learn how to say and act in a manner that gets my point across. It's all a big lesson.

But what I also wonder, is if the state of weakness itself can have something to offer that I'm missing. Sometimes I feel life is full of lessons and I miss half of them.
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Old Mar 30, 2014, 12:18 PM
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I'm sorry you were hurt by someone here
I know what you mean by being accused of lying, when all you are doing is trying to be open and honest with people . It makes one eventually retreat and just not open up to anyone anymore

I'm not sure how to advise you, but I wanted to let you know you are not alone. I hope things get better for you. Hang in there.
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Old Mar 30, 2014, 01:31 PM
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When people make fun of other people,its usually
because they are very insecure and stupid enough to
think that putting others DOWN raises them UP!
How in God's name they figure THAT out,I'll never
know. Report them to a moderator thus saving
someone ELSE some pain. You are good enough.
Deepest Respect,
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Old Apr 01, 2014, 07:31 PM
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Thanx guys. I know there is something wrong with people who attack others out of the blue.

Still... I feel like it is almost spiritual in a way. Like, maybe I did someone wrong in a similar way that I don't remember? Maybe this is to remind me to try to better myself? Like it's karma or something?

I know I sound weird. I know I'm not a bad person but at the same time I'm not a good person. I don't know where I wanna go with myself...
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