Struggling to cope with comment

I supervise a daycare and for some inexplicable reason, the kids seem to really like me, like ridiculous amounts. This is despite me being pretty shy and boring. Today one of the mothers said her son had been crying for me last nght and that he talks about me constantly at home. She then said that her elder sons had asked lots of questions about me and asked if I was pretty. She then went "I said no..." she then clapped her hand over her mouth and looked really embarrassed and awkward. And you know, I don't get why the kids like me so much either even if I am very kind to them but I really didn't need to see that. Already know I am ugly. I guess I am asking do kids (as I have always thought) look beyond appearences?

She probably didn't want her sons to be curious about you...think of it as her being a mother lol. I sincerely doubt she would have brought it up otherwise. She probably intended to make communication with you and when she realized how you might have interpreted it, she freaked. I am sure you are beautiful.

Hi Jenni, completely agree with euphy, she may not have wanted the others to be curious about you.
And if her other son was crying for you and talking about you constantly then maybe she wanted to try to turn off the conversation with her "No........." as she may have felt it would encourage the constant talking.
And you know maybe another possibility was that she was feeling a little resentful towards you at that time. I mean with all that focus on you (the crying, the constantly talking about you) instead of some of that being on her/his mom.
But before I move on , might very well be nothing (or nothing more than he likes you) but the crying............constantly talking about you............do you think you could maybe talk to him a little about how things are at home??? Could possibly be some issues there e.g. he isn't feeling that he's getting enough "attention", he's feeling unsettled for some reason.............?? Like I said might very well be nothing but.........you know in case..........
And, the "pretty" thing............well you know attractiveness can be completely subjective anyway, what one person might see as attractive another person might think the opposite and vica versa. If not this woman then there is highly likely to be someone else who thinks you are pretty.
That, and kids might see past "appearances" but they don't see past boring that often, so not only can't you be as boring as you think you are, you must have more about you too for the kids to like you that much.
So come on, stop selling yourself short what do you reckon?? Maybe you're attentive, caring, supportive, helpful.................?? Maybe all of them and more!!!!
And real respect for doing so well with the kids by the way!!!!

Alison

Thank you Alison. The child is only 2 so think he is just attached to me rather then anything else going on. Like you say though, maybe she was fed up of hearing him go on about me as apparently it was from 12PM through to when he went to bed.
Thanks for your kindness and comments xx

Kids like you because they can connect with you. Disregard negative comments given by the adults.

Yes I find it hard I worry they see me as some kind of troll.

I agree, disregard the negative comments (could she be jealous or resentful?)

Yes, focus on the fact that this kid likes you so much that he can't stop talking about you even when he is at home

I don't think she could be jealous. I get the hit she thinks i am quite odd as she thought I was 16 originally and when she found out my age she seemed surprised I wasn't msrried and had kids. If anything, I should be jealous of her. I don't think anyone could be jealous of me
I am just relieved her child thinks I am not as ugly as she does and sees some worth in me.

I put my foot in my mouth the same way this woman did a few weeks ago and suggested that my good-looking boyfriend wasn't good looking. Just like the mother, I caught myself before I finished, but it was too late.

This woman doesn't think you are a troll - she just meant that you weren't a supermodel and it came out completely wrong.

It just hurts that I am not pretty.

I used to get kinda the same stuff when i met my coworkers' wives at holiday parties. They would look me up and down and say, "oh so YOURE hankster?!" And i very clearly got the message that they could not believe they had been jealous about their husbands talking about me at home. We are everybodys pal but nobodys gal. Obviously we are special in our own way