[Alter]

Everyday i feel anger, like when im doing something and my mother calls or when someone acts agressive or offensive, i feel anger all over me, its like im being consumed by that feeling and it makes me wanna destroy something or someone, but on the outside i don't show any of it, i don't try to look calm i just do, i can't express any anger no matter how great it is.

Im kind of a cold person, i remain calm in every situation and don't express my feelings but sometimes people can notice when im sad or happier, when it comes to anger i can't express any of it and i don't try to hide it, like when im depressed i try to hide it but i don't try to hide anger, it just stays inside of me consuming me till it disapears, i can only let it out when im alone complaining about the cause, sometimes i had punched walls or throwing objects like shoes against it, there were times i also hit myself or pulled my hair.
It seems i can only let it out when im alone, and i can't express it around other people.

Do you also feel like this?

[kaliope]

my dad was a very angry person and i didn't like it so i stive not to be that way. have you every seen anybody to work on your anger issues?

[Crazy Hitch]

There are some things that warrant us to be rightly angry and other times when our situation is disproportionate to the situation at hand.

Your anger is interfering with your life and hampering your mental well being.

Sometimes we can "fight" and sometimes we can "flight" - I think you're doing the latter when your anger arises in front of other people and then it lands up in a massive self explosion when you're alone.

You should consider getting professional assistance to guide you towards healthy ways of dealing with extremes of your emotions.

Be well.

[Alter]

Originally Posted by kaliope

my dad was a very angry person and i didn't like it so i stive not to be that way. have you every seen anybody to work on your anger issues?

My dad is also an angry person, i also don't like it, atleast mine is kept hidden from others, its a strong feeling that eats me inside it usualy last around 5 minutes, then i get depressed or what i call "normal" that depends on the situation, what happens during the anger decides how i feel next, if im alone or with people i know and they don't talk to me during the anger i will get sad or depressed, if im with people i know and they talk about something thats not related to what caused the anger i get "normal" unless the reason im angry is them.

Originally Posted by Hooligan

There are some things that warrant us to be rightly angry and other times when our situation is disproportionate to the situation at hand.

Your anger is interfering with your life and hampering your mental well being.

Sometimes we can "fight" and sometimes we can "flight" - I think you're doing the latter when your anger arises in front of other people and then it lands up in a massive self explosion when you're alone.

You should consider getting professional assistance to guide you towards healthy ways of dealing with extremes of your emotions.

Be well.

I am in therapy and i go there around once per month, i still didnt speak about the anger i feel, sometimes there is too much to talk and little time to do so, not everything is said but i will speak about this issue.

[PianogirlPlays]

I feel like the angriest most supressed individual I can think of. I am working with someone but I am sitting here suffering from letting anger drive me to eat and act in detrimental ways. I find the anger so hard to deal with especially since it involves family. I can't seem to deal with it or find a way to express my feelings because the person I am upset with is such an angry person too that she would probably let me have it if I tried to share my hurt when she verbally went after me. I dealt with it better then than I am now after the fact.

[Thunder Bow]

Being cold or acting cold to another is an expression of Anger. You innternalized your fathers anger on to yourself and others. Your Therapy will help you with that.

[BLUEDOVE]

The one deciding factor that enabled me to largely
overcome my anxiety,which was very bad,was . . . .
I finally accepted I had the RIGHT to be angry if
someone was abusing me or being disrespectful.

[Douglas MacNeill]

Originally Posted by Alter

Everyday i feel anger, like when im doing something and my mother calls or when someone acts agressive or offensive, i feel anger all over me, its like im being consumed by that feeling and it makes me wanna destroy something or someone, but on the outside i don't show any of it, i don't try to look calm i just do, i can't express any anger no matter how great it is.

Im kind of a cold person, i remain calm in every situation and don't express my feelings but sometimes people can notice when im sad or happier, when it comes to anger i can't express any of it and i don't try to hide it, like when im depressed i try to hide it but i don't try to hide anger, it just stays inside of me consuming me till it disapears, i can only let it out when im alone complaining about the cause, sometimes i had punched walls or throwing objects like shoes against it, there were times i also hit myself or pulled my hair.
It seems i can only let it out when im alone, and i can't express it around other people.

Do you also feel like this?

I tend to experience cold anger myself, so I can relate.
I try to deal with it in such a way that no innocent person
gets hurt. Having said that, I can be a little bit scary
when I get angry--I tend to tell people off in no uncertain
terms and even try to dismantle them with words.
I'm not sure what I am doing with my anger under these
circumstances: expressing it appropriately? repressing it?
suppressing it for the sake of others? validly feeling it?
or "none of the above?"

[SalaciousD]

I have had poor performance reviews at work due to my "short fuse." I don't get how some people can be so inexcusably lazy, directly hampering others. I have had a lot of success with the meds I'm on for this, but there are still flare ups, pun totally intended.
Seems very cyclical doesn't it? Anger to depression. Anger over being depressed. Depressed for feeling angry because you're depressed.

Hooligan has it right. You have the right to be angry, and you should voice that. When it becomes something that interferes with work, then you should get help as you have.

I hope you are finding jelp

[caffeinefordays]

Originally Posted by Thunder Bow

Being cold or acting cold to another is an expression of Anger. You innternalized your fathers anger on to yourself and others. Your Therapy will help you with that.

Interesting thought. I've been forcing (or trying to force) apathy onto my life for 2 nights now, and it seems to be working fine so far. I would say I as well have been cold and calm, but never factored in "angry" as a possibility (with the goal being eradication of emotional responses), and I'd like to think I'm not - I just simply do not care.

[Thunder Bow]

"Not caring" is just another way one can express their anger. It is interesting how our minds express our anger in many ways.