[FeelingHopeful]

Feeling really down and not liking myself much these days. Anyone have any hugs or advice ? Everyday hurts, trying to be strong and i am failing,. I cry everyday.

[gayleggg]

I'm sorry you are feeling so down. I don't have any good advice as I too am quite depressed right now, but I did want to send you some hugs. I just keep hoping that tomorrow will be better.

Best wishes, Gayle
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[Keyslost]

Just know that you are awesome

I'd just like to add another hug.... Trust that something will happen one day and you will overcome these moments. You may not be able to see it now, but it will happen. Keep on trying to be strong.

[FeelingHopeful]

Thank you everyone, You have no idea how much it meas to me, Im a mess these days and its hard because i cant talk to anyone in rl about stuff. So to come here and get hugs and support means alot <3 !!

[CrewCut]

Originally Posted by FeelingHopeful

Thank you everyone, You have no idea how much it meas to me, Im a mess these days and its hard because i cant talk to anyone in rl about stuff. So to come here and get hugs and support means alot <3 !!

I don't know your story but staying active helps. A good long walk in the sunshine always helps me. Exercise (even just moderate) helps. Also when you have negative thoughts, work on replacing them with positive thoughts. I find that if I "tell" myself that I am a good person I actually can believe it.

Being down and depressed is hard (believe me, I know). But if you take small positive steps, you can feel better.

[hannabee]

Sorry you're going through this! Upbeat music, petting an animal, reading a good book are some of the ways I try to feel happier. Big hug! You are important and deserve to be happy.

[avlady]

big hug here too!!!i hope you feel better soon and have some popcorn and ice cream if you're not on a diet, they are comfort foods for me.

[Confused5397]

Ive been hating on myself too a lot lately, and its really starting to get to me. I used to never cry, and now Ill be doing a daily task and break into tears. I don't know how I can help, but just know that you are not alone, and don't feel alienated or isolated from the rest of the world.

[orangyred]

feeling the same way. I wish I had advice for you, but I've added a hug.

[NyxAngel]

FeelingHopeful, I don't have any advice, either, but you are not alone. My redeeming qualities are quickly disappearing leaving me a hateful, mean, rude being that even I can't stand spending any amount of time with.

Confused5397, I also feel the way you do with the crying. I used to be pretty tough, now any "normal" daily situation has the potential for total devastation.

[KC_neuro]

I'm right there with you. Lots of tears and self-loathing lately. *hug*.

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[PianogirlPlays]

I hope you are feeling better. The only thing that really seems to help me is to get into and stay in the moment. I am amazed sometimes when I have just had a good conversation or something how during that moment I wasn't inwardly beating myself up or feeling lost in pain.

[nicoleflynn]

It is sad to hate yourself. You are the only.....you in the Universe, unique and amazing. What would you do if you knew you could not fail?

Find things to do that make you feel good. Perhaps get into therapy. Write in a journal every day. Reach out to people who are lonely...you will find that when you do that you feel wonderful...when we take ourselves....out of ourselves, that is when things change.

[FeelingHopeful]

Aw thank you everyone , that means alot ❤ , thank you!! I have a journal but haven't wrote in it yet. I think therapy is so wonderful , but I can't go unfortunately ��

[ptangptang]

You need to stop hating yourself PDQ . Stop defining yourself as useless, waste of space ,unloved etc and tell yourself how good you are. Get out and do 'stuff' amongst nice, positive people that makes you feel better about yourself. Misery loves company so don't wallow in it online. It's a big world out there and we're a long time dead so get out and get active. Like yourself, like other people, like life.

[avlady]

i also have aproblem thinking positive about my self and my life. i wake up in the morning wishing i was dead, i think it is just my sleep apnea although. try to tell yourself positive stuff like you can do this or that. there must be something you enjoy doing? good luck

[Cardboardfighta]

Originally Posted by CrewCut

I don't know your story but staying active helps. A good long walk in the sunshine always helps me. Exercise (even just moderate) helps. Also when you have negative thoughts, work on replacing them with positive thoughts. I find that if I "tell" myself that I am a good person I actually can believe it.

Sorry you're going through this! Upbeat music, petting an animal, reading a good book are some of the ways I try to feel happier. Big hug! You are important and deserve to be happy

When I'm really Down, I go to the Library an listen to some instrumental Music (classical, jazz, whatever) and look at books with a lot of Pictures and minimal writing (foto or art books etc).

Going to the Library gives me a change of environment (It's a neutral Place to me), and filling my head With Music and Pictures (without Words!) keeps me away from ruminating thoughts and helps me get on a New track. As well as being a distraction, I think it's a good way of achieving mindfulness.

The times I've done this, It's been like a re-boot.

Hope you find a way

[FeelingHopeful]

thank you everyone, I'm trying all your advice ❤ , p tang I'm sorry if my wallowing disturbed you. Just going through a really rough time and asking for help coping with it , I'm sorry if it bothered you . Not everyone handles things the same way , I conebherevto talk about stuff because I cannot in real life and even here I can be guarded a little too but I am trying , to those of you that encouraged me thank you from the bottom of my ❤❤❤

[cakeladie]

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[NyxAngel]

Someone else on PsychCentral (I've forgotten who )sent me this article on Mindfullness
I've been working on the first thing mentioned in the article:

1. Witnessing your thoughts.

It’s really important to remember that you are not your thoughts. As the authors write, “You have thoughts, but the thousands of thoughts that pass through your mind are not who you are.” Instead of getting entangled with unhelpful thoughts and believing them wholeheartedly, you can witness them.

The next time your inner critic is roaring, take several deep breaths. Then slowly and repeatedly whisper these words: “I am the witness.” You also can practice this every day. You can whisper or chant the English translation or the Sanskrit words: “Aham sakshi.” You can end with: “I witness.”

Maybe it could be something that might help you.

[ptangptang]

Originally Posted by FeelingHopeful

thank you everyone, I'm trying all your advice ❤ , p tang I'm sorry if my wallowing disturbed you. Just going through a really rough time and asking for help coping with it , I'm sorry if it bothered you . Not everyone handles things the same way , I conebherevto talk about stuff because I cannot in real life and even here I can be guarded a little too but I am trying , to those of you that encouraged me thank you from the bottom of my ❤❤❤

Sorry I didn't mean that you were. I meant that it is easy to use the miserableness of a group as a comfort blanket on here and online generally sometimes. It's not a criticism, I think I do it myself from time to time. But it's not healthy and if I realise that's what I'm doing I try and switch my thinking to something more positive. Please don't take it personally.

[Babymonster]

Originally Posted by NyxAngel

Someone else on PsychCentral (I've forgotten who )sent me this article on Mindfullness
I've been working on the first thing mentioned in the article:

1. Witnessing your thoughts.

It’s really important to remember that you are not your thoughts. As the authors write, “You have thoughts, but the thousands of thoughts that pass through your mind are not who you are.” Instead of getting entangled with unhelpful thoughts and believing them wholeheartedly, you can witness them.

The next time your inner critic is roaring, take several deep breaths. Then slowly and repeatedly whisper these words: “I am the witness.” You also can practice this every day. You can whisper or chant the English translation or the Sanskrit words: “Aham sakshi.” You can end with: “I witness.”

Maybe it could be something that might help you.

I try to do something similar. If you can bear witness to your thoughts, one of the group councillors suggesting recognizing each thought as "pleasant" "unpleasant" or "neutral"

So "I hate myself" - "well, that's unpleasant"

I like to use interesting. "I hate myself" - "well that's interesting, thank you for bringing that to my attention". It seems to take the edge off those emotionally charged thoughts.

Also I like "I intend" statements. My favorite is probably "I intend to feel good".

So "I am useless" - "I intend to feel good"
"Nobody cares about me - "I intend to feel good"
"Life is so difficult" - "I intend to feel good"
Etc.

Takes practice, don't get discouraged. I read that one of the biggest reasons for getting caught up in a depression spiral is not because of our thoughts and feelings, but our judgements and reactions to our thoughts and feelings. I thought that made sense.

[gypped]

I feel completely worthless most of the time, and it just gets worse. I have nothing to look forward to in life, and that's what makes me feel so hopeless. I used to be able to fool myself into momentary happiness by thinking, "Oh, well at least there's such-and-such coming up next weekend." I have nothing now. Not a single thing.
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[FeelingHopeful]

Aw gypped I'm so sorry, you feel so bad if you wanna talk and get it off your chest I'm always around I like helping people. Ptang I understand now. Sorry for confusion there , I like coming here though because I honestly don't feel like its all miserable I feel like everyone despite their own hardships and tough times really try to help each other that's what I love about PC��, so big hugs to all of you.on many occasions you have helped brighten my day , so if any of you need advice or someone to talk to if your sad I'm here for you guys too , ptang you too��, right now I'm struggling with one of my best friends / we didnt date but were um close disappearing out of my life without knowing why , I think I may know but not sure can't diagonose , never saw it coming ��, I'm lost , sad , confused.