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Old Jan 21, 2015, 08:40 AM
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Most people have the same deep desire - to be loved and have someone commit to spending their life with you. I sure do, at my core that's what I want more than anything else.

But it doesn't mean I'm going to sit and wait for it. I'm not a Disney Princess and life isn't a fairytale... no one is going to rescue me and make my life wonderful. That's my job.

There are no instructions for life. Except to eat, breathe, use the bathroom, etc. No one, anywhere in the world, can give you a fool-proof step by step process to landing a man. If you want to try, I'm sure you could find plenty of books online to purchase... they might even have some good advice hidden in there, but still won't make your ideal man show up in your life.

So while no one can give you step-by-step instructions, we've all been giving you the best and most common-sense advice we can think of. Which you reject and for some reason say is impossible. The various things suggested are the goals you can work towards that will help give your life more meaning, open opportunities, lead to a healthier lifestyle, expose you to more people, and make you more of an all-around more desireable person because you'll be independent, successful, and hopefully happier.

As it is, you have two goals: to be a vet tech and to find Mr. Right. But you are just seeming to sit around and be miserable in the meantime. Working towards the vet tech is a good goal - but you seem to have a lot more time so why not pick up more work to be able to afford it sooner? Or apply for a student loan? They are in fact both possible.

Why not get your driver's license since you say you can't walk for 45 minutes, have ignored tips for taking taxis, and won't get a lift in with your family when they go to work both because you don't want to rely on them (even though they pay for everything else) and because you'd be in town for their entire work shift. So, get a license and at least work towards independence where you could at least borrow the car and use it and pay for gas.

Just pick a more attainable, and more immediate goal, to work towards.
Not an option as I have spacial awareness issues and would cause severe car accidents, and maybe even kill somebody. Not something I want to do, particularly. Good idea though.
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Old Jan 21, 2015, 09:32 AM
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Until you stop making excuses for why you can't do anything, nothing positive with occur in your life. I used to do just the same thing; I played the helpless victim to a tee. I wanted to be rescued and this desire led me into relationships with some less-than-stellar men. I know your struggle. Please take advice from someone who's been there.

If my bluntness offends you, many apologies but there is no easy, fluffy way to put this. At this point in time, nothing we say here concerning this topic will make any difference in your life because you are not able to see past all the I-can'ts to see all the I-cans.

Please be well. You deserve happiness, peace, and love. Make room for it in your life. ♥
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Old Jan 21, 2015, 12:19 PM
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It is hard to find right man if you don't know men don't have men friends in real life don't date don't talk to men etc how would you know what qualities to look for? That's why suggestions were to get out and get to know people. Of course you can also meet guys online but that isn't working as they just aren't interested hence my suggestion to revise your profile. And continue working on improving your own communication and social skills and overall your quality of life, "right" men out there are also looking for "right" women.

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Old Jan 21, 2015, 12:22 PM
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As about driving my daughter also doesn't drive, have anxieties etc she is college educated professionally employed is working on her masters degree has loads of friends and just got happily married. Sure not driving made it more difficult but is doable. I know others who don't drive and they live good quality lives

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