[PianogirlPlays]

I have felt so upset about things. Interactions with my husband. Struggle with counseling. My own choices. Past history with my daughter. Things are better but memory is there. Seems like there is always something and it all goes inward.

[palerefraction]

I identify with your struggles *hugs*

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[BLUEDOVE]

Hi Piano,
I used to do a lot of this,but reduced it a
good deal when I found out that a lot of the time I
was condemning ALL of myself,for a PART of
myself! It's called 'The whole of,part of,error',and is
when we condemn whole of self,for part of self.
Let's say you have spat with daughter,and you say
something you later regret. That's only a PART of
you! You/we are much too multifaceted to condemn
ourselves for parts we pick out arbitrarily to damn.
Look at it in reverse: Do you think you are a saint
because you do ONE good deed? Of course not!
See how you are doing opposite to dear self?
I would not be without the following book:
"Self-Compassion" by Kristin Neff,she has a web
site,so put her name in search box and have a look.
Kind Regards,
BLUEDOVE

[PianogirlPlays]

Thank you . I read an interesting article today about personality differences and how to deal with them. The pain is bad but that was a little respite. I shall also try to pick up that information on whole and part.

[PianogirlPlays]

More of the same. Bad memories that come back and steal the joy of the present. I need to forgive my husband for treating me very critically in past. He is trying harder now but these bad pictures come back. I try to fight these bad memories but it just makes it worse. I feel like talking to my husband will only rob him of joy and make him feel badly like I do. He is sorry. He is trying to do better. This pain though seems to be deep in me. I need to forgive him and me. I get upset with myself for remembering. These things are making me physically ill.