How to erase obsessive crush?

I dont get it why am i so obsessed over this girl from my study group. I have the strong crush on her for 3 years already. Even when i was dating my ex, i secretly thought about this girl. I know that i dont have anything to offer to her and she doesnt like me. She gave me a few signals 2 years ago, but i lost my chance long time ago. She, most likely, despise me for not making a move when i should have. Or she just gave me signals out of fun and didnt liked me even then.
Studies will be completely over in 6 months and after that we will not see each other ever again. I know that the only way to stop attaching to her is to delete her from social network. But it would be rude to do now, while we might to see each other in halls of the institute. But i dont know how to tame my obsession for 6 months more. I have idealized her so hard, i think she is perfect and cant think anything negative about her, but thats because i dont know her really well. The only real and long conversation we had was 1.5 years ago and i still remember every word she said. Pathetic, huh?
Im not really active user of the network, but i do login once in 3 days and every time i see some of her updates. She uploads some beautiful photos or posts some great music and every time i feel so much pain. What should i do to numb such strong feelings for her?

Of course you can still approach this girl. I used to have crushes and if the guy never made a move I just stopped hoping but I never despised anyone for not picking up on it or not liking me back.

I dont think i have to develop any false hope. I analyzed this situation deeply, her and my behavior for the past years and i came to conclusion that my chance is zero. You said about the guy and how you used to have crush on him - its different case. Im sure she never felt anything for me. Maybe those signals were just one of my fantasizes. Basically, she just made a few friendly tiny actions towards me, it doesnt mean anything. I remember the line from this Eternal Sunshine movie - "why am i falling in love with every woman who shows me a bit of attention?".
I have read a few articles about unrequited love and every article says that i should distance myself from her. But its so hard because of social media. I have to be active there to maintain contacts with two of my online-friends. I have hided her from news updates, but still, in the list of online friends i see how she changes her main photos and cant help but check this out and feel miserable afterwards.
When studies will be finished, i will have to decide should i delete her for my personal comfort or not. If i would do that, it would make the possible future meetings with fellow students impossible. I dont know if those meetings even will occur at all. I dont have such meetings with people i knew from school, so its hard to predict. Maybe those meetings will have place, but without me, because i never really was popular guy in my group. There will be time to think about it, but for the moment i dont know what to do.

I hope it works out well. I still think you can go ahead and ask her out for coffee or something as friends, and see how that goes. Good luck.

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She is not perfect. Imagine her taking a dump. Are her leavings in heart shapes? Does it smell like your favorite scent? When she wiped, did she get some on her hand? Did it look like marshmallows?

No? Exactly, she is just a person.

Grab that fear, hold it tight, get out on that limb, and jump. She may catch you or she may not, but at least you'll know. It's only pain, it will not hurt you. Good luck!

I agree you should go for it. As a woman if I found out a guy was this interested in me I would be flattered.

If you like a girl let her know, ask her out. What worse can happen? You'll find out she doesn't like you? Well you already think that then you'll just know for sure. Take your chances. If you too shy to speak to her write her a note email text anything. When you know for sure ( she says yes then maybe you two have something there) she says no (you move on). Always better to know. By the way I had a crush once that lasted few years he finally asked me out (he had crush on me as well) we dated and he turned out to be a total jerk lol so it is always better to know for sure

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