[sometimeslifegivesu]

To make my story as short as possible, my ex roomate (also ex friend) started dating an ex of mine that she knew I had been hurt by. Anyways first they were just friends then he started hanging out at our apartment, etc... I believe this bothered me most because she knew personal and intimate details of our relationship.
I only dated him for a few months but our break up hurt a lot. This was 4 years ago but he really marked me as the guy that made me suffer the most...
Buthappily I'm in love and in a really healthy relationship now for 3 years with a man that treats me the way I deserve!
I ended up leaving the apartment and closed a door on this friendship after an argument and basically not enjoying to arrive home and having an ex you hate on the sofa...
My issue is with her. She tried to date 2 friends of mine witch she loved to talk to me to know more about them. When she needed me she was the sweetest but when she didn't she would have "new friends". I was ok with this I just guesed she had issues...
Time has past since I've moved and not a word between us.
Today I see a facebook update and see they are still dating, why in the world does this still bother me so much?! Why can't I feel happy for them? Why do I over analyse these things?
Could I be wrong to have broken a relationship over a stupid guy? Why do I secretly hope he breaks her heart into pieces?
I wish I could be stronger and let these feelings wash away, but it's like I'm clinging on to something. ..
Ideas? Thanks

[sideblinded]

Hi sometimeslifegivesu

This sounds like a very frustrating situation. I would think it invalidates you as being the kind of guy that she would like to date. That must feel horrible. I can see that your feelings would be hurt. It could be that you still have feelings for her and it is hard to see others move on and leave us behind no matter how that happened. I understand. I would give it time and see if that helps.

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[kaliope]

hi
it is natural to be feeling what you do. lots of people do. it is like your friend crossed sides to the enemy camp, she abandoned you. she did something she knew would hurt you. that is the ultimate betrayal. you have to questions, do you need frinds like that and find a way to let it go and move one. welcome to psych central. you will find that there are several forums here where you can post about your thoughts and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome