[pinkvilla]

I had a heartbreak about 15 yrs ago.Everyone involved had moved on.But I just can't stop thinking about him and wanting to be with him.It is more than enough time to have my heart healed.I have tried therapy,tried journaling about it. Nothing is helping me to get over it. He is married now and so I don't have any expectations of getting back. I'm married and no one else seems to take his place in my heart.This was my first and only love. The pain is so real even now. It didn't end well .I stopped speaking to him even though he tried to keep me as a friend.

I'm really ashamed of my feelings but I'm too sad to not bother about it.Should I try being a friend to him and may be that'll help?? I really have no clue how to solve this. I know I should concentrate on my own marriage and let the past be past,but the sadness is overwhelming.Anyone has any techniques to get over heartbreak,that actually worked??

[K2TOG]

Wow 15 years and still heartbroken is a long time. My suggestion is to try a new counselor. Life is too short to be miserable and wishing you had something you don't. I suffer from green grassitis. I always think the grass is greener on the other side. Sometimes I have to take a step back and realize how blessed I am and count my blessings.

Maybe cutting all ties with him might be a good idea. I read a quote about hugging a cactus. The harder you hold on to the cactus the more it hurts. Seems like you have been holding on for so long and it's still painful and you can't heal.