How do people do it?

Short version, I' m fairly certain know what my problem is. I'm extremely lonely, I crave affection and love and so much want a woman to share things with, to hold, to take care of, to protect, to be a partner with. I know I will never have that....again. How do people cope with knowing they will live a life without love?

I thought I knew that, so I accepted it. Then I tried to at least be a good friend to people I like, to try to have friends. One of those friends showed me I was mistaken about what I thought was known. Maybe you will be wrong too. At the very least, I don't think anyone can know the future for certain.

Well that's the kicker though. I don't have any real friends. I don't do small talk, I don't chat; it's meaningless babble. So I don't make friends like that and that also goes for talking to someone I would be interested in. I've accepted the fact I'll be alone and die alone. What I have trouble with is living with it. Accepting something as fact and learning to live with that fact are two separate things.

I was really depressed last week and asked almost the same exact question. I don't know how to deal with the lonliness, other than to find good things to occupy your mind. I can say this: God knows what he is doing and has a plan for us. It may be living alone, or getting married, but only He knows the future. He also gives us choices.

You have something to offer. Who else quotes Caesar? That's cool.

Need this reminder, thanks. The Spirit told me earlier....patience. I just have a really bad habit of not being so.

I think we've had this conversation before. About the function and opportunities around small talk or chat, a low-risk opportunity to show oneself and observe others. The chat is just a vehicle for unstated things. Doesn't matter that it's trivial and meaningless itself. It opens doors. Lets people know whether you are friendly and warm, etc, etc. It's the first stage upon which you can study the human species. And if you're going to have a partner in life, studying the human species to some degree is a good idea, if not essential.

But, you aren't going to do that, so shutting down chat fits with your plan or expectations for the future.

So what happened to unconditional love and accepting people as they are? Is that no longer a valid thought process?