need ideas on dealing with anger

So, what do people do when they feel angry?
I am looking for positive suggestions to deal with it.
None of my old ways help me feel better.

Most do the wrong thing when they feel anger. When you are angry, identify what you are angry about. Avoid expressing your anger through personal accusations on others. Just be honest and to the point when expressing your anger. Avoid add ons, such as personal accusations. Accusations only esculate the situation to the point of being out of control

Try using precision,I.E. what EXACTLY was said or done?
Do NOT add your feelings or thoughts,look at it clinically.
It would be helpful to write words said,and any actions. This gets it out of your head,where its less danger to magnify.

I find journaling helps me when I'm angry.

Best wishes, Gayle
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If you're feeling like phsyically acting out on it, I suggest the following:

- Go to the batting cages and hit some base or softballs.
- Go to the driving range and hit some golf balls.
- Get some blow up punching clowns from the store and place them around the house.

The balls and clowns can represent the person you're angry at and you can hit them all you want and not be doing any damage to yourself or anyone else.

I've heard that pounding on pillows also works, but I personally enjoy the other three methods myself.

Sincerely,
Pfrog!

I feel for you. I'm looking for ideas myself. I went to a counselor for a bit about 6 or so months ago. That helped. At least for awhile. Now I feel myself getting angry again.

Sometimes journaling helps. Actually, that's better for me then trying to do something physically, like going for a walk or run. I find when I do something physical I can actually get angrier.

I know each of is different so I hope you can find something that works for you.

Thanks all.
I tried writing which made me angrier as the program I was using kept freezing. I was able to discover while I was able to write that I was not just angry. I was scared and afraid as well. Writing has always helped me figure things out, but sometimes I need the reminder. Thanks. I have sense fixed the program and will write more.

I couldn't take your suggestions Pfrog, but you had great ideas. Instead I vigorously scrubbed my toilet. That helped. I am going to clean it again today and every day until I feel less angry.

I talked to therapist yesterday about the anger I was feeling and he wanted me to focus on the sadness first. This is a brand new therapist who does a different kind of therapy. He actually wants me to sit with and feel my feelings. Whodathunkit

I despise anger. It scares me. To me anger = violence So I guess being scared makes sense.

haha P.S. Loved your reason for edit

You have probably heard of all the coping strategies like counting to ten, going for a walk, or taking a breath but they are just that. A way to cope. There is one absolute way to completely resolve your anger in less than two seconds. A cure. It is to forgive them. Forgiving completing resolves your anger.

There has to be a cure. After all, if there wasn’t then we would get angry and stay that way for ever. What did we eventually get around to doing? Forgiveness.

Letting go is just another way of saying forgiveness. Forgiving resolves our anger completely. But most people can’t forgive the most terrible things at first. It takes practice. Start small. Start small with someone you actually like right now. Forgive them for something small they did you irritate you.

Forgiving is an emotional muscle.

We forgive to get them out of our heads. Sure, it might help them too but it is more for us. Most other people usually forget about how they have wronged people. Staying mad at them does not help us that much unless we do something about it.

Trust is not forgiveness.

That has to be earned but we seem to forget that too.