I'm not sure if this is the right place but it seemed the nearest fit.

A friend made a comment about me today, it was complimentary but it got me thinking about my behaviour. It might sound a little odd.

We had just finished a run and I commented on the beautiful weather and scenery around us, he mentioned that I often make very positive/affirming statements about my surroundings/people around me. I hadn't really noticed I do it but when I thought about it I realise I do it a lot.

It's genuinely felt, when I like someone I feel the need to tell them - compliment them on their behaviour/kindness/humour whatever, or if they look nice (female friends, I'm a woman) I tell them so. If I like food, in a café or someone's home I comment on it, and I really enjoy every mouthful.

It's not really a problem (no one has said if they find it annoying), but I wonder if it's connected with my breakdown a few years back, I was emotionally disconnected and didn't feel anything at the time. It's almost like I've gone the other way now. I feel extremely grateful for anything positive in my life and tbh there is a tiny little voice inside that tells me it won't last, and so it's like I have to savour everything and everyone good in my life while I can.

Does anyone else experience this?

Not right now, but I have had that experience of going from numbness back to being able to feel, and it brings a sense of delight and gratitude with it.

I can't imagine that anyone would find it annoying unless you turn into a complete Polyanna . I would imagine that they would find it refreshing and genuine.

So long as that little voice doesn't try to take over with negativity, I can't say that I think it's a bad thing to remember that we don't know how many times we'll get to experience something good.

I'm prone to flip-flop between appreciation and Scrooge-i-ness myself, so I think your viewpoint sounds lovely.

[detfan4life]

I agree that your viewpoint sounds lovely! I think if you're enjoying yourself and are sincere, any positive comments are a breath of fresh air.

Originally Posted by jo_thorne

Not right now, but I have had that experience of going from numbness back to being able to feel, and it brings a sense of delight and gratitude with it.

That's it exactly, it's delight and gratitude.

Originally Posted by jo_thorne

So long as that little voice doesn't try to take over with negativity, I can't say that I think it's a bad thing to remember that we don't know how many times we'll get to experience something good.

Yes, I'm aware that the little voice can try to take over. I think part of my feeling maybe fear based, that I don't want to go back there again. It's knowing that 'dark side'.

Thanks for replies, it's reassuring to know I'm not alone.

[readytomoveon]

I have not gotten to that point in my life, but I would love at some point to get there. Whatever had happened in the past, it has made you become more inspiring and conscious of the positive things that surround you.

It shows your strength. Very inspiring.

Originally Posted by readytomoveon

I have not gotten to that point in my life, but I would love at some point to get there. Whatever had happened in the past, it has made you become more inspiring and conscious of the positive things that surround you.

It shows your strength. Very inspiring.

Thanks! I hope you do get there at some point.