[pinkvilla]

My worst fear is that if my partner leaves me,I'll end up a prostitute . I am a very well educated person and I have been a prude sexually right from the early years. Right now I am a stay at home mom,but have the qualifications to find a good job.
I was wondering why I feel that way.Even if I see someone abusing a woman on screen sexually,it triggers a shame in me. I haven't done anything that should cause this. I seem so frightened by this baseless thought.
Why do I feel like this?

Hi Pinkvilla. welcome to PC. We may feel a low that comes with the fear of abandonment. We may be telling ourselves subconciously that we do not want to be alone and will go out and seek someone to be with. This thought has crossed other people's minds. You are dwelling on a fear of losing your partner. That is really what this is all about. Try addressing those fears and the basis for them. Have you talked this over with a counselor? It might help. And is there cause for feeling this way? Have you expressed these thoughts to your partner? Communication is everything. Often times it is little things blown out of proportion or what others think they know what we think and they project that when it is misconception of truth. I hope this helps? tc

[gayleggg]

Triggers of abandonment lead us to have all kinds of unrealistic thoughts. Why it chose those particular thoughts is unknown but working on your abandonment issues is the way to squelch the fearful thoughts. Do you have a therapist or close friend you could discuss this with? Maybe therapy would help.

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[Thunder Bow]

Do you remember being abused as a child?

[pinkvilla]

Originally Posted by Thunder Bow

Do you remember being abused as a child?

No I was not sexually abused.But my mother is a narcissist and I have codependency issues because of that.Thanks for replying.

[DBTDiva]

Originally Posted by pinkvilla

No I was not sexually abused.But my mother is a narcissist and I have codependency issues because of that.Thanks for replying.

Did your mother tell you that you would not amount to anything? Could it be related to some emotional abuse from her?

[healingme4me]

Is something going on in your marriage that leaves you feeling sexually disconnected? If you're conservative, that's fine. However, I ask if there's a lack of connection on a deeper, more intimate level?

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[pinkvilla]

Originally Posted by healingme4me

Is something going on in your marriage that leaves you feeling sexually disconnected? If you're conservative, that's fine. However, I ask if there's a lack of connection on a deeper, more intimate level?

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Yes.I feel so disconnected emotionally and sexually with my partner.It has been like that from the start. Could you please explain this a little further.I'm very curious to know why. I want to make sense of what is going on.Thanks

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by pinkvilla

Yes.I feel so disconnected emotionally and sexually with my partner.It has been like that from the start. Could you please explain this a little further.I'm very curious to know why. I want to make sense of what is going on.Thanks

Well, prostitutes work on a severe level of disconnect. Hence, if feeling disconnected, it could leave you feeling as such, hence the fear of resorting to what you already feel that you've grown used to.

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