[pinkvilla]

I am having some marital problems and it seems like in my mind,I want to end it. My therapist suggests separation to see how I feel since my partner doen't believe in therapy. My mother is a narcissist and my family will offer no support if something happens to my marriage.

I'm terrified to think about the consequences of walking out of my marriage.I have been a stay at home mom and it will take a while for me to live on my own.I feel like a complete failure and without my family's support,I don't know how I'll manage.

Hello,

Can I ask, have you ever had a job before?

You know you'll need to be financially independent, but I don't think that will happen overnight, especially if you've been a stay at home mum for years.

You could perhaps try and find a part time job, that would be a good start.

Also you could try the following links, there might be some help available for you:

1) Benefits.gov - Virginia
2) Single Mother Guide: Financial Help for Single Mothers in Virginia

Good luck!

[TryingToMoveForward]

I've never been in this situation, but I want you to know I heard your words and that you aren't alone. I think the post above has some good advice, and you just need to take it a day at a time. That's all we really can do. Eventually you'll move from surviving from one day to another day, to thriving day to day, it just takes time. This will likely be a transition for you, so it makes sense that its really scary. And its okay to be scared of the unknown.

Originally Posted by pinkvilla

I am having some marital problems and it seems like in my mind,I want to end it. My therapist suggests separation to see how I feel since my partner doen't believe in therapy. My mother is a narcissist and my family will offer no support if something happens to my marriage.

I'm terrified to think about the consequences of walking out of my marriage.I have been a stay at home mom and it will take a while for me to live on my own.I feel like a complete failure and without my family's support,I don't know how I'll manage.

All marriages have problems. Do you think that yours are not solvable that you want to end it?

[pinkvilla]

Originally Posted by Le.Monsieur.S

All marriages have problems. Do you think that yours are not solvable that you want to end it?

I feel like at this point,I don't even want to try to work on my marriage. Though I'm well educated,I left my good job to be with the kids.I understand the stupidity of that move now.I should've held on to my job .Now it may take a while to find a job and it makes me very nervous.I feel like I wasted my education. I wish I could work up the courage to see the reality,take the losses and move on. As my therapist suggests,I'll give myself sometime to have some mental clarity as to what to do.
Thanks everyone for chiming in!

Originally Posted by pinkvilla

I feel like at this point,I don't even want to try to work on my marriage. Though I'm well educated,I left my good job to be with the kids.I understand the stupidity of that move now.I should've held on to my job .Now it may take a while to find a job and it makes me very nervous.I feel like I wasted my education. I wish I could work up the courage to see the reality,take the losses and move on. As my therapist suggests,I'll give myself sometime to have some mental clarity as to what to do.
Thanks everyone for chiming in!

If the problems haven't been there all the time for a long time, just take a break as your therapist suggest. When we feel strongly negative about something our logical mind shuts down, and won't listen. Try a break. I am sure your kids are happier you have been with them. Nothing good is waste of time. You still have your credentials if you decided to work. Just think of that when you are ready to think outside of your current situation. All the best.

[Stillcloseted]

I have social phobia and I feel alone all the time yet I want to be alone.

[Hazel eyes]

Originally Posted by Stillcloseted

I have social phobia and I feel alone all the time yet I want to be alone.

I have found that baby steps are the best way to move forward. Start with something that you can handle.